phreindly: Want: Free Thinking Lady, w/ Noir Humor who dances
About
Non-smoker with Average body type
City
Baltimore, Maryland
Details
59 year old Man, 5' 7" (170cm), Other Religion
Ethnicity
Caucasian Sagittarius with Brown hair
Intent
phreindly is looking for a relationship.
Education
Bachelors degree
Personality
Humanist
Profession
Musician/Artist/Retired


dating
Nov. 2013






I am Seeking a Woman For Long term
Needs Test View his relationship needs Chemistry Not Completed
Do you drink? I do not drink Do you want children? No
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Pets Cat Eye Color Hazel
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? No
Longest Relationship Over 5 years How ambitious are you? Ambitious
Second Language Spanish  



About Me
Hi, thanks for checking me out. I am a 58 year old Caucasian male of Russian Judaic ancestry, but I am a humanist now.

UPDATE: Jan. 2015 I have had a change of plan, after having been in and out of the online dating thing since 2005. I now want to find a Lady Correspondent, a Lady Penpal for an extended period. I have been around, and I have SEEN THE SCENE. So many of us single men and women in our 50s and 60s want an EASY ANSWER, a QUICK FIX, a QUICK ENERGETIC READ. I have been there as well, and seen SO MANY Ladies there too.

My solution, a hair shy of RADICAL ACCEPTANCE of no dating, is to find a woman who like corresponding with me, about mutual shared interests, over an extended period. The whole problem here is TIME. Everyone thinks they know who they are, and what they want, but I NEED THE PROOF OF THE TEST OF TIME. If we like each other enough to write letters (e-letters) consistently for 3 months or 4 months, then maybe there IS SOMETHING there. Otherwise I will never know.

Having said that, what follows is my profile as written before, with one Dec. update.

My preference is to date a woman who can FEEL music in her whole body, hips, backbone, feet, legs. I am just a novice dancer, but I am an accomplished Blues Harmonica player and sing, and I FEEL MUSIC. I LOVE Lexington Market live music jams here in Baltimore. If you do not ACTIVELY LISTEN TO, PLAY, OR MOVE TO, rhythmic music, preferably blues, RnB, classic Soul, Rock, Rockabiliy, Classic rock, Funk, Blues/Jazz, then we would not make it.

I do not want to date a woman who is pro-military ( I am not anti military, I just do not support the USA being violent overseas when we have so many grassroots problems.If you need to travel internationally on a regular basis, we are not a good fit. If you drink more than socially....I do not want any alcoholics, addicts or smokers to date. Thanks.

Update, Dec. 16, 2014: A woman associate who saw my profile recommended I say something about the fact that I am 58, have not been married and do not have children. I UNDERSTAND this is a red flag for many women !

Woman: How come ? There must be something WRONG with him !

Me: I was born into a very repressive and dysfunctional family, suffered abandonment and multiple sexual abuse/rape in early childhood. My Soul was forced to black out these experiences for a very long time. And then, in high school, I could symbolically understand my pain when I read the French Existentialist writers, and I told my teacher: " I am not going to have children. I would never want to bring a child into this world to suffer as I have". It took me many many more years to work through these memories.

OK, blah blah, now the GOOD NEWS. Having gone through all that, after many years I have healed from it, but in the meantime did not move forward into the life of marriage and fatherhood. OK?

One more observation: I am NOT trying to show that I was victimized or show my wounds ("woundology"). I do NOT want to go out on dates to discuss trauma and how bad I had it. I am a Loving, fairly Whole, Gifted and Great human being. And any woman who blows me off because of my past, now that the account is here, just DOES NOT DESERVE ME. I am done now.

My major goals are to relax, dance, play jazz, swing, funk r n b, and blues music, share times of pleasure, relaxation, conversation with a loving friend, and do ink drawings and mixed media art and pottery, and work around the house developing my useful skills in plumbing, electrical, electronics, carpentry, drywall etc, and gardening of course, and together explore Maryland more.


I like to walk in nature, cook together, watch independent movies. I LOVE stand up comedy, but mostly on Netflix..

Each day I live I try, sometimes very successfully, sometimes averagely, to give something back, even if just a smile or opening a door for a senior.

Thanks for checking me out. Best, Ed

First Date
Exchanging engaging, well thought out, heart felt letter -eletter correspondence, for 3 months. When we find each other that way, then the likelihood of a first date is better.


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