phreindly: Honesty, kindness, respect & let's laugh alot
About
Non-smoker with Average body type
City
Baltimore, Maryland
Details
59 year old Man, 5' 7" (170cm), Other Religion
Ethnicity
Caucasian Sagittarius with Brown hair
Intent
phreindly Wants a relationship
Education
Bachelors degree
Personality
Humanist
Profession
Musician/Artist/Retired


dating
Nov. 2013






I am Seeking a Woman For Dating
Needs Test View his relationship needs Chemistry Not Completed
Do you drink? I do not drink Do you want children? No
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Pets Cat Eye Color Hazel
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? No
Longest Relationship Over 5 years How ambitious are you? Ambitious
Second Language Spanish  



About Me
Hi, thanks for checking me out.
I am a 58 year old Caucasian male of Russian Judaic ancestry, but I am a humanist now.

You ought to face this: (It is at least partially true) Online dating is mostly screening, selfie-advertisement, and self proclaiming while HIDING any skeletons to create a glossy perfected profile. You will see that my update below shows some darkness and vulnerability from my past.

I have a strong feminine side as well as a masculine, which women, who still have no clue about animus projection, do not like.

My preference is to date a woman who can FEEL music in her whole body, hips, backbone, feet, legs. I am just a novice dancer, but I am an accomplished Blues Harmonica player and sing, and I FEEL MUSIC. I LOVE Lexington Market live music jams here in Baltimore. If you do not ACTIVELY LISTEN TO, PLAY, OR MOVE TO, rhythmic music, preferably blues, RnB, classic Soul, Rock, Rockabiliy, Classic rock, Funk, Blues/Jazz, then we would not make it.

I do not want to date a woman who is pro-military ( I am not anti military, I just do not support the USA being violent overseas when we have so many grassroots problems.If you need to travel internationally on a regular basis, we are not a good fit. If you drink more than socially....I do not want any alcoholics, addicts or smokers to date. Thanks.

Update, Dec. 16, 2014: A woman associate who saw my profile recommended I say something about the fact that I am 58, have not been married and do not have children. I UNDERSTAND this is a red flag for many women !

Woman: How come ? There must be something WRONG with him !

Me: I was born into a very repressive and dysfunctional family, suffered sexual abuse at the birth hospital, major trauma at 1 year old and was drugged and raped at 5 or 6 years old. If you have ANY familiarity with the dynamics of early childhood trauma, you will know that the infant child adopts several techniques for survival from the intensity of such sufferings: a. dissociation, b. memory blackout.

My Soul was forced to black all three of these experiences out for a very long time. And then, in high school, I could symbolically understand my pain when I read the French Existentialist writers, and I told my teacher: " I am not going to have children. I would never want to bring a child into this world to suffer as I have"

OK, blah blah, now the GOOD NEWS. Having gone through all that, after many years I have healed from it, but in the meantime did not move forward into the life of marriage and fatherhood. OK?

One more observation: I am not trying to show that I was victimized or show my wounds ("woundology"). I do NOT want to go out on dates to discuss trauma and how bad I or We had it. I am a Loving, fairly Whole, Gifted and Great human being. And any woman who blows me off because of my past, now that the account is here, just does not deserve a man of my loving sensitive Subtlety. I am done now.

My major goals are to relax, dance, play jazz, swing, funk r n b, and blues music, share times of pleasure, relaxation, conversation with a loving friend, and do ink drawings and mixed media art and pottery, and work around the house, and together explore Maryland more.


I like to walk in nature, cook together, watch independent movies. I LOVE stand up comedy, but mostly on Netflix..

Each day I live I try, sometimes very successfully, sometimes averagely, to give something back, even if just a smile or opening a door for a senior.

Thanks for checking me out. Best, Ed

First Date
Casual, somewhere that is comforting to both of us, where we can hear each other, and relax for coffee or a drink. Cafe or such. Or...and this is my preference: Let's meet at a club where there is a live blues swing band and dance or learn to dance together!

Other possibilities: In Spring, walk and sitting in park. Or maybe, bowling, or art museum.


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