When life looks like easy street
There's danger at your door....Robert Hunter
So oftentimes it happens
We live our lives in chains
And we never even know we have the key! Frey&Henley
So, tell me who I see
When I look into your eyes
Is that you, baby,
Or, just a brilliant disguise.... Springsteen
I was in a whirlwind
Now I'm in some better place......Dylan
9/21/13........I just noticed that I typed my profile in the "optional first date" box, below. Re-reading my words,, though, this works. I have all kinds of ideas for a cool first date, but this seems like a real long-shot way of even meeting someone, never mind meeting and mutually connecting. But, it can and does happen, and here we are. Perhaps someone reading my words and I will go on a cool first date, sometime, then a second. Good luck to you, whoever's reading this - I hope you find what you want, what you seek, or it finds you. Breathe, count your blessings, be grateful, count your blessings and smile.........
Please read on, though I see a lot of "I"'s below. If you should contact me, I want to hear about you......
An 11/21 addendum ( and air clearer) : I'm seeking someone close to my age. within 10 years (or so). Smoking isn't a total dealbreaker, but it surely doesn't count as points in your favor. Heavy drinking is a dealbreaker, and you know if you're a heavy drinker, and so will I, really fast, so please don't waste our time.Ditto if you have an inability to be honest - I'll know it and fast, so PLEASE!! - go elsewhere. If you have a history of being dishonest with your partner(s) don't come near me, in fact forget you even viewed my profile. Distance isn't a dealbreaker for the right person who's willing to also do that. I don;t look at profiles without pictures and it's highly unlikely that I'll read an email from or respond to one. I don't look at the "meet me" or favorites options, and won't respond to one or 2 word or sentence messages. When I come to this site it's not for wasting time. I'm here seeking someone with whom there's mutual attraction and some mutual interests and who, like me, wants to and is willing to go one more go-round at working together to build something good. I'm seeking a companion, hopefully a partner( my standards are high and yours should be, too). So please don't waste our time and energy. Starting today, I commit to replying to any message I receive( other than those silly "Hi" and " Hey there"'s. Though I admit that I haven't reached out too much myself in the 2 months I've been active here, don't be shy re contacting me, but if yo do please have something to say. Communicate........ I'm a hopeful kind of guy, and still hope there's someone out there and when we find and connect with each other, it'll be worth all the hassle and ups and downs of online dating.
I turned 62 a week ago, and for the last several years feel like I'm getting younger with each birthday instead of older. I have one,single, healthy long - term relationship on my resume.I ended it in early August after almost 5 1/2 years. I'm grateful for who and what I am on the other side of it, and for what I learned from having that experience, which is much. It's been a relatively short time, and like most people I'd prefer to be partnered up with the right person( and only with the right person) and do believe that " it takes two" but for the first time in my adult life I'm ok with myself in this single thing.
I'm an avid reader, movie-watcher, walker and novice hiker - I made two summits a couple days ago, Mt Arab and Mt Baker, the latter of which kicked my butt.I'd like to learn to kayak and snowshoe. I love live music, music festivals, art and live theater. I love all 4 seasons. I love CNY and the NE. I love travel, and have a rather lengthy bucket list of places I hope to get to. Simple activities - browsing the bookstore, fires, flea/farmers markets, a good walk. Can be persuaded to do almost anything. I sold the house I lived in for 21 years this past June and did some serious downsizing and am adjusting to living in a small apartment. I'm in good health and condition, with room for improvement. Financially stable. Non-smoker. Very light drinker. I eat healthy, most of the time but enjoy all kinds of foods. All of the above would be attractive to me in a woman with whom I shared a mutual attraction. I admire and am attracted to women who aren't afraid of the ageing process.I admire and am attracted to women who aren't afraid to be honest, and know how to share - their time, their attention, themselves, what they want and need. I admire and am attracted to women who aren't defined by fears,and I like women who've learned to roll with the punches and keep going( something that took me a loooong time to learn).And I love women who know how to laugh. I could only come to love a woman who knows the value of partnership, and teamwork. Individualism and even independence are part of a healthy relationship, but not autonomy( "it takes two"). I was on the back burner in my longest relationship and could and especially would never do it again. One tattoo, and I plan on one, and likely two more. I try to never say never, but I'd think long and hard before getting involved with a smoker, or with someone with chronic financial issues.I have very low tolerance for liars and sneaks I have compassion and sympathy for them, that they need to do that, but try to keep my distance from them. And I definitely don't want to be around heavy drinkers or heavy drug users. I have no tolerance for bigots, phobes( my oldest son is gay) and other fear-based character traits, and wish that I didn't even have to say it.
That's me, the proverbial nutshell. There's more but it's your turn.....