1. Hobbies-Writing, photography, bicycling, walking, talking for hours, working hard on making the world a better place for my potential offspring (still undecided on children until I make a large contribution to making the world more just.)
Making every single woman in my life feel more empowered. Just this week i've made the two women I work with feel like their ideas make a difference in a big way...and they do make a difference. An empowered woman, is a beautiful woman!
2. Goals/Aspirations- Write a novel worth reading.I'm on here to find more to hang out with, really i'm here to find a special one to hang with as i'm not a "player" of the game of womanizing. I'm simply a player of life looking for my team mate...but I won't mate with just any one that comes along.
3. I am a "life artist" (Note: We all are "life artists" to a degree). I seek to find a way to turn everyday into an art project. Somehow use my creativity in a way to show people that life can be beautiful, even the mundane things, esp if you have someone special to spend those times with. When you have someone that's by your side, for the ups and the downs it makes both much better.
I have my yin I just want my yang. I know me very well, I know what I offer to the right woman and it's the same thing that we all want. Unconditional love, respect and compassion.
4. um music. This is a deep subject for me. I am passionate about the art of music and can find deep satisfaction in any music that has been well thought out in advance. and love anything with a beat that I can dance to. I love to dance when i'm out, even if no one else is dancing, I will be dancing by myself.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I will pick you up on my tandem bicycle. We will have adventures. We will talk about everything you always wanted to talk about with someone, but were afraid to bring up.
I will never make the first move physically, as I like a woman who knows what she wants and I usually respect women too much and I have been told that I don't need to put them on a "pedestal" as recently as last week...by two different women. (08-05-10)
After riding or walking around town, rain or shine or cold (you have to be an "out doorsy" person to be with me. We could just see where the conversation takes us. We could walk around, sit on a bench, go to a cafe, go to a park...stumble into a tiny bar.
One of the tiny bars that line the streets here in Richmond in the Fan. We'll grab a table in the back of the dimly lit restaurant and talk until they kick us out. Back on the streets we'll be wondering what sort of motives each of us have. I'll assume that you're as pure as an angel unless you tell me otherwise with your words, your body language or the faint touch as you inch closer to me on the sidewalk. I'll try to ask you every single question I can think of, I wouldn't hold anything back and i'll encourage you to do the same, So much so you'll be afraid. You'll say out loud, "I never share this much on the first date. You'll probably think i'm crazy." By the end of the date I'd make sure that this would be the beginning of a friendship or relationship, hopefully a friendship first that can be more. Hopefully you're looking for more too, but not just looking for more from the first guy that comes along, but for the first guy that comes along and doesn't try to sweep you off your feet with smooth talk but by the smooth action of letting you be who you really are on the first date because you know that I'm being exactly who I am, nothing held back because I know that's the only way to start a good thing. You'll be silently calculating whether I'd be the best lover you've had in a while or the best heterosexual guy friend you've always wanted but weren't sure existed. We'll know if there's chemistry with in the first hour or two, the fact that I care, the fact that I am too mindful of how you feel, will turn you off sometimes, but when you realize all you have to do to shut me up is kiss me on the lips you'll feel like you're in 8th grade again, kissing a boy for the first time, sneaking it in on the sidewalk near the bus stop in the late afternoon light. Feeling pure in your feelings, knowing that there's no way I could share myself with two women in the same time period in life, passion that's too pure to fake.
By the questions I ask i'll be able to tell if you're just trying to play me like a cheap harmonica or if you have good intent. I don't want to be used for what I have to offer you physically, I want to be used for how I make you feel and if you make me feel good in the same sort of way. The way I make you feel like you're the only person i