As you might tell from my listed interests, I'm a pretty huge nerd. I guess "intellectual" is a more polite word than "nerd", but really both words apply. I'm a permanent student because I'd rather learn things than earn money. On the subject of which, I'm not exactly broke, but I'm not rolling in money either.
Dispositionally, I'm not a huge go-getter. I mean, people who have one chat with me tend to think I'm a dominating personality machine, but that's just because talking - and talking well - is important to me. I like to have lots of quiet space, either alone or shared with someone else quiet. That "someone else" includes my nerd friends, but I dream longingly of it one day including a like-minded woman. After all, getting sympathy hugs from my male friends is better than no hugs, but it's a far cry from ideal, you know? So, anyway, those people who say "I'm looking for someone who can keep up with me", well I can try, but do I get to take rest breaks?
Physically, the main thing about me that's kinda hidden in that picture is that I'm really rather skinny. 6 feet, 135 pounds, work it out. I do try not to slice people open on my ribs or pelvis, though.
I'm a little hesitant to discuss sex here, if only because so many women's profiles have some pretty, um, angrily-worded things to say about guys talking about sex. I feel like no matter what I say here, I'm going to alienate a vast majority of women reading it, even if those women actually want to know. Genders can be such a pain in the ass, sigh, although obviously I'm only half serious. But something I would really like in a woman is her having a (partial?) clear idea of her own sexual wants, so that I can learn to accomodate. (It's just too frustrating having to persuade a woman that she might have preferences before proceeding to figuring out what those preferences might be.) Sexual take-take-take is more fun than no sex, but that's like saying I'd rather eat rotting food than starve. My palate cries out for reciprocality.
I'm looking for a smart woman, who shares at least some of my interests, who thinks thinking and talking about theory is worth doing. I'm looking for love, and for a friend, and for a lover (yes ideally all in one person), but I'm not expecting to get any of those things immediately. But hey, the sooner I start the process, the sooner it pays off, right?
Oh, and honesty is a _big_deal_ to me, both giving and getting. Note the no-bullsh*t description, after all. =]
Addendum! Well, I'm reading people's profiles, and thinking about contacting people, and not sure what to say. So, if you're reading this, and potentially interested, and suffering from the same difficulty, I propose you consider answering one of the following dorky bad-SF-novel questions:
If transported back in time (and space, blah blah) to Alexander of Macedon's court (feel free to choose other time/location/etc), what amazing future knowledge could you contribute? Would you? Why? Discuss! (feel free to ignore or attend to the issue of not speaking Ancient Greek)
Djinn. Three wishes in three minutes. No wishing for more wishes. Go.
Expound on the social implications of POF.com. Bonus points if you denounce it convincingly and then refute yourself.
Prove that no 7 points in R^3 have the following property: If you connect two points iff the distance between them is less than or equal to 1, the induced graph is K_2,5. btw, if you answer this one fast enough, it's going in the paper I'm working on.
Just pose me a stupid basis-for-ranting-conversation of your own.
Addendum the Second! My profile is too short on topical bon mots!
* Speaking as a bicycle, I long for a fish.
* And on the subject of fish, I'm not looking for plenty of them, dammit - just one right one.
I've never been good at this dating thing, so without better suggestions from you, I'm going to fall back on something like shared food (lunch or coffee or dinner). The important thing to me is a chance to talk, about subjects serious or less serious, so something like a live music show or a difficult athletic activity would not be my first choice.