An acquaintance once told me "I'm not looking for a woman I can live with; I'm looking for the one I can't live without."
Well, though I've no objection to dating for the pleasure of good company, most of me is still looking for the man who can't live without me... and without whom I can't live. We're not talking mutual suicidal tendencies here, we're talking about the stuff that makes life worth living, that brings joy and laughter and that wonderful feeling of having come home, at last, to safe harbor after all the storms. This is not to say I'm expecting Instant Love Affair -- just add internet and go -- I expect friendship, ease, common ground, and chemistry before thinking of anything more serious -- but I won't pretend I'm willing to "just settle" either. It doesn't have to be a live-in affair, but it does have to be something we're both equally committed to, whether it's short term or long. If you still haven't figured out what you want in life, good luck, but please look elsewhere. I'm not here to tame any wild stallions!
Note: I don't smoke, don't want to be around smoke. If you're courteous about your habit and it's not a constant thing, I can deal if you can. And if you haven't the patience or interest to read this profile, then you're not a man I'd be interested in. (Yes, I know I'm blunt... :)
I'm an easy-going lady with strong opinions you don't have to share, as long as you respect my right to them. (Well, actually, you *do* have to care about animals or I won't be able to be civil to you, but other stuff is generally not my concern...) I love animals and have a "family" of indoor cats, would love, for starters, to find someone local who'd enjoy conversation, a mild hike, a movie, whatever. I love music, especially 60's pop and British Invasion... as well as many other types...
The biggest source of joy in my life is hang-gliding. I fly as often as I can and would love to hook up with someone who could enjoy it too.
Aside from that, I'm bright, lively, have a good sense of humor and a wide range of interests and talents: artist, writer, designer, photographer... I'm not conventional, not Southern (California transplant), and believe in being who I am without apology. I'm open to some degree of change, but at this age, I'm also pretty sure about who and what I am and what I value. I'm kind, honest, and extremely straightforward. Under a laid-back exterior, I'm sensual, open-minded, a bit eccentric; I love to dance and to sing, want a man who's not ashamed to kiss in public, and though I enjoy role-playing, I won't pretend to fit in just to make other people feel complacent. I'm a very nice person, but I'm also a rebel and I stand up for what I think and feel.
A few caveats: I've never had human children and don't regret it. However, this makes it difficult at times to relate to people my own age; their lives are often wrapped up in their families, and since I don't share their experience, it cuts away a lot of common ground. I'm looking for a relationship where my partner and I can come first in each others' lives: if your world revolves around your kids, I applaud you as a parent, but we wouldn't work out as a couple for anything beyond "friends with benefits" and possibly not even that. Same goes if you can't accept that I love my cats as most people love their kids: You can come first but you can't replace them. Also, my spirituality is "new age", based on the world's oldest religions: if bible study and churchgoing are significant factors in your life, again, we're not a match.
I believe firmly in escapism and stories with happy endings, because why focus on all the things that go wrong in life when you're trying to relax? I believe in fixing what I can and looking for the things that can make me smile whenever possible. I don't do goals, plans, resolutions; never been wired that way -- I live day to day, but with a sense of healthy caution. I like making other people smile too, and I think most things are more fun when I have a partner to share them.
I miss home (California) with a passion, but I bought a house here in Georgia and barring a lottery win, I'm here to stay. Hopefully I'll meet someone who agrees that looks really matter, but without chemistry, humor, intelligence, honesty and a warm heart, looks aren't enough. Even with all of the above, if we don't make each other laugh and the communication doesn't flow like a river, no real friendship or relationship is going to happen either. I've spent a lifetime dreaming of the perfect love. I'm no longer even sure there is such a thing, but I've learned that friendship, laughter and caring go a long ways toward making the sun shine every day, and that kind of friendship is what I'm looking for before I even think of anything beyond it. After all, if you can't be friends, how can you be lovers?
My ideal man... is also bright, kind, sensitive, honest, compassionate and never gives his word if he doesn't plan to keep it. He's good with words: expressive, witty, dry-humored, able to make me laugh even if I'm feeling down! His eyes have a smile in them, his mind is wide-open, intelligent, unconventional; he's sensual even more than sexual - kind of a "bad boy" type with a good heart!
He's also old-fashioned, protective enough and able to support a woman without feeling he's "buying" her; he enjoys the courtesies between ladies and gentlemen rather than being scared off by the extremes of women's lib. He's easy-going but has real integrity, respects a woman as an equal and enjoys her company as a friend and companion, rather than having an agenda about what should be happening on some imagined schedule. (Translation: I'm not interested in quick/casual sex!!!)
He believes in himself without being stuck on himself; is tolerant of others' quirks and can see the world from other perspectives than his own; genuinely cares about animals and believes they matter at least as much as people; cares about the planet we're living on, and recognizes that the world is full of mysteries to explore even if you never leave your back yard. It would be wonderful if he happened to be spiritual as well, at least in the sense of feeling the oneness in Nature and choosing to take part in that. After all, just because one can't make magic in a laboratory doesn't mean it doesn't exist!
As to looks, I'll be honest: I prefer to date young men, though there are always exceptions. I'm a very visual person, and it's rare to find anyone over 40 who takes care of his body and his looks. Since I make the effort to take care of mine I feel you should do the same. A man who would pique my interest physically would keep himself young-looking and be reasonably handsome/cute with a SLIM, fit body.