I can be pretty complicated, but the journey is worth it. I enjoy in equal parts solitude and socializing, conversation and quiet time, sunlight and storms, city and country, serious and silly, a day packed full of activity and a night full of cuddling by the fire. Laughter, thoughtfulness, honesty, respect, open-mindedness, curiosity, sensuality, taking your time, and a desire to know yourself and others... are essentials in my book.
I think I am shy, but most people tell me I'm not. The truth is that I'm selective, and prefer not to jump into things too quickly. I open up much more one-on-one with the right person. I enjoy being quietly persuasive and letting someone make up their own mind about me. I am definitely not your average guy; I am not into sports, cars, or TV. I journal, I hike (lower east side or high mountains), I try to stay in touch with myself, and I like to talk about things that matter, but I also like (and need) to laugh, relax, muse, talk to my cats, and not take things too seriously... and I get a little better at that every day. I am spiritual but not religious, though I sympathize pagan, and take an interest (in moderation) in things alternative. Ask me, I'll tell you.
That sounds *so* introspective. I have other sides, too... I enjoy the city a lot, exploring, having a few drinks, hanging out and trading stories. Sometimes you just gotta say WTF.
I am not looking to marry, to find a soul-mate, to move in with someone, or (for the time being) to have an exclusive relationship. I enjoy love, caring, passion, sensuality, sharing, and play, but friendship must come first and be the foundation if anything's to last and have meaning. I believe strongly in openness, honesty, respect, and doing the right thing.
There, I've said my piece. If it interests you, I hope you'll drop me a line.
(Note: my main picture is from July 2010.)
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I enjoy almost anything if I'm enjoying the company. For a first date, though, I do like the chance to converse at leisure... without having to shout or whisper (so most bars are out, as are movies -- those come later!). Dinner and (quiet) drinks works great, but so does a hike (country or city!), the beach, or canoeing. What's your pleasure?