Relationship Background: I have had experience in various alternative types of relationships [avuncular, escapade, open, poly, handyman, light bondage, live-in baby-sitter, chaotic neutral catalyst, strange attractor, ad hoc sex therapist, hide the shoehorn inna corner...] as well as the more mundane kinds [5 years of marriage, numerous occasionally luminous friendships (both with and without benefits) with various smart complicated women].
Sex-positive & open-minded (tho personally het). (My most memorable encounters have almost always been with bi women tho. (I have my own theories as to why this might be the case--tell me yours?))
Pagan-friendly--and not one little bit "God-fearing".
INTERESTS: Esoterica media yoga fiction mythology taichi people-watching anime scifi smartass humor psychology oral sex & sex. (Not necessarily in that order.)
DISINTERESTS: Fashion, sports, finance, cars, regular hours, bright sunlight or why YOUR religion is MY Answer.
TURNONS: Willing flesh, a lively mind, a shining heart. I value intelligence creativity kindness empathy beauty skill independence an open mind liveliness passion & anyone who has something interesting to say on any topic. (D'oy! I should maybe want someone dull unattractive mean rigid inarticulate clingy and passionless?) Extra points to an animal lover. (And a certain shameless lack of inhibition never hurts!)
TURN-OFFS: Empathic indifference, bigotry, scorn [as opposed to witty sarcasm], willful ignorance, a curdled soul, blithe cultural chauvinism, possessive jealousy, skindeep depth, mindless rigidity, lack of self-respect & habitual manipulativeness.
In Brief:I browse personals for signs of intelligent life, fight a wee eBay addiction, indifferently attempt home repair, believe seven impossible things before breakfast (and even more before I wake up...), prefer Cherry Coke Zero When I can find it) & enjoy walking my doggies inna park. I recycle, close the lid and am a paragon of the community...
Naaah! I am just your basic retro model jeans & flannel shirt 420-loving not-entirely-ex hippie kinda guy (with some nice under-the-hood freelance evolutionary intelligence agent[slash]spiritual warrior retro-fits), who generally finds more in common with counterculture types than with the mainstream.
PS: That is Sam[underline]Thoth where the male is not at all chilly...)
"Too much of a good thing is wonderful." ~~Mae West (1892 - 1980) US movie actress
Favorite Books & Authors: The ILLUMINATUS! Trilogy [Shea & Wilson]; The Cryptonomicon [Neal Stephensen]; The Principia Discordia (or, How I Found the Goddess and What I Did with Her After [don't ask unless you *really* wanna know...]); A Wrinkle in Time [L'Engle]; The Great and Secret Show [Clive Barker]; Flow My Tears, the Policeman Said [Phillip K.****... In fact, *anything* by PKD, or: John Barth, Robert Shea, Robert Anton Wilson, Alan Moore, John Crowley, Tom Robbins, Neil Gaiman, Daniel Pinkwater, Hunter Thompson, Octavia Butler, Kurt Vonnegut, Mark Twain, Samuel R. Delany, Tim Powers, Oliver Sacks, Robert Heinlein [a sentimental favorite--without his stuff, I doubt I would have survived my youth in WVa!], William Gibson, Dean Koontz [except his very early stuff-*pee-yew*!], Stephen King, Peter Straub, Robert Charles Wilson, Roger Zelazny...
Recently Read: Stephenie Meyer's "Twilight" tetraology--Northwestern Gothic with a friendly [?] "coven" of vampires--classified as "young adult" mostly due to the age of the female protagonist/narrator. (Soon to be the next Harry Potter-esque series of movies--but with considerably more of a realistic edge (if done right).
Currently Reading: THe second volume of Neal Stephenson's absolutely astonishing 8-volume magnum opus, "The Baroque Cycle II: King of the Vagabonds"
IN NO PARTICULAR ORDER: Leonard Cohen, Teilhard de Chardin/Emperor Norton/KD Lang/Natalie Merchant/12 Monkeys/Princess Bride/Sarah McLachlan/Robert Charles Wilson/Dogma/Serenity/Dark City/Roger Zelazny/The Cryptonomicon/Joan Osbourne/Flow My Tears,the Policeman Said/Silence of the Lambs/Stephen King/Peter Straub/Young Frankenstein/Neil Gaiman/The Great & Secret Show/William Gibson/Meredith Brooks/Paula Cole/Chasing Amy/Dean Koontz [except his very early stuff [pee-ew!]]/Lou Reed/Mark Twain/Time Bandits/My Dinner with Andre/Bob Dylan/Samuel R. Delany/Oliver Sacks/Principia Discordia/Hieronymus Bosch/Lucious Jackson/The Opposite of Sex/Richard Feynman/Giordiano Bruno/Eleanor of Acquitaine/Jewel/Fiona Apple/Sophie B. Hawkins/the Dali Lama/Milo Rambaldi/Empire Records/Oscar Wilde/The Cranberries/Sinead O'Conner/Mark Twain/FarScape/Inuasha/The L Word/C-SPAN/Mae West/Firefly/The Dresdan Files/Dexter/Christopher Walken/What the BLEEP Do We Know?/Rosa Parks/Patrick Henry/Buckminster Fuller/Angel/24/Bill Maher/cold orange juice/MirrorMask/Gina Gershon/Lost/Daniel Pinkwater/Hunter Thompson/West Wing/Closer/China Beach/Octavia Butler/Kurt Vonnegut/Pink/Pat Benetar/Stevie Nicks/Run Lola Run /Penelope Houston/Alias/Daily Show/LA Story/Medium/X-Files/Babylon-5/Benjamin Franklin/The Court Jester/John Barth/Baba Ram Dass/Salvadore Dali/Waking Life/Sakiuki Reload/Wire in the Blood/Phillip K.****Eureka/Galactica/Doctor Who/Kiki's Delivery Service/Mystery Train/Bob Marley/BB King/A Scanner Darkly/Thomas Szasz/Wilhelm Reich/The Rocky Horror Picture Show/Nikola Tesla/Kill Bill/Tim Leary/James Joyce/Being There/Heroes/Repo Man/Willow from Buffy the Vammpire Slayer/Cowboy Bebop/John Barth/Altered States/Robert Anton Wilson/Immortal [the 90s eurofilm--not the 60s series]/Yugi Moto/J'onn J'onzz the Manhunter from Mars/early Bugs Bunny/Primeval/Tori Amos/To Have & To Have Not--& Breyer's All-Natural Black Cherry Vanilla Ice Cream
What I would do for a first date?
You mean--like jump up and down and cluck like a chicken, say, or eat a bowl of live worms? Sign away my inheritance and go live in a Wyoming trailer park for love?
No, I wouldn't do any of that. Sorry.
But let's talk about *you* instead...
Are you still looking for Prince Charming?
For everyone who sez yes, I'm gonna organize a support group.(The first step is understanding that you have a problem...)
I hereby dub this syndrom "Fundamentalist Romanticism". Like all fundies of whatever sort--the thing they have in common is that they have forgotten how to distinguish between what is metaphor, and what is real.
I don't believe in real life fairy tales. You shouldn't either. Every individual & every relationship is unique--and shouldn't be burdened by some fantasy of perfection, projected upon it by the mesmerized 6-year-old within, who still has "her Prince" as her model for what she is looking for in life. The Ideal is a chimera, a will-o'-the-wisp, an occasionally useful abstract symbol *only*.
Thus: I happen to like intelligent creative lively kind independent openminded uninhibited beautiful women who have something interesting to say on any topic. But--I would "ideally" *require* someone to possess ALL those desirable qualities (or I would just be "settling" & end up bored with & despising the person for their lack of perfection--right?). (Meanwhile in what seems to be consensus reality, finding *half* of those qualities in one real person--who also happens to kinda like something about you as well--is like hitting a mega-ball 5-state lottery by playing your birthday!)
Because only a real imperfect human person can make your bed warm (or otherwise inviting), or do something endearingly unexpected, or kiss you *just* right...
(Or perhaps even all of those things--at the end of brunch on a rainy Sunday...)
I'm here primarily for a light diversion, and not particularly looking for a LTR; just a weekend or a season of fun can be very nice. Tho--I'm not at all adverse to becoming friendly with those I meet here, and letting things develop open-endedly as they may. In general, I'm pretty much inclined play such things by ear.
PS: That is Sam[underline]Thoth where the male is not at all chilly...!
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