Life has always been pretty good to me. I’ve taken the opportunities it’s presented, and managed the challenges it delivered. To me, you take what you get and do what you can to make the best of it. Bend with the ebb and flow.
I had always thought I could spend my life alone and be happy. Of course I always thought it would be nice to have someone to share it with. But if no one came along; if that wasn’t destined to be… I’d make that work.
Until I met her.
She is the template for everything I could hope for. She is anything I could want, and more than I expected I need. I don’t want to spend any more time without someone that wonderful in my life. And so I won’t. So unless we part ways, through the ebb and flow of what life presents…
I won’t be back here again.
But I’ll leave this.
Because she loves to peek.
I’ve been on and off these sites for a very long time.
It gets frustrating after a while. You probably see it too. Countless women and men appear half naked in their photos and then expect to generate meaningful conversations (and are shocked when all they can find are the vain and superficial). Or, people enter a dozen periods and call it a day. I’d like to think there’s a little more to all of us than that.
But I want to keep this concise.
Who’s that guy in the photos?
- Young professional (educated, employed, housed, automobiled)
- A thinker (life, people, politics, contingencies, dependencies... everything?)
- Loves (photography, people, driving w/ windows down & music up, exploring, relaxing)
- Appreciates (grammar, introspection, artistic ability, humour, expressive faces)
- Watches (good television, bad television – while yelling at it, people succeed and fail in video games – prefer if my opponents fail, movies, people)
- Pros (thoughtful, considerate, reasonable, level headed, intelligent?, not a bad looking character)
- Cons (selfish, challenged with self control, honest(?))
- Depends… (introvert who plays the extrovert, enjoys alone time - a lot, INTP)
Who are you?
- Cosmopolite with provincial foundations
- Open, honest, intelligent, a thinker
- Self sufficient, comfortable in your skin
- Witty, quick, sarcastic, not too serious about yourself.
- Independent, enjoys your space
- Dork (also nerd?)
- Healthy balance between introversion and extroversion
- LOW MAINTENANCE
- An explorer, imagination included
What will happen?
- A lot of talking, and a lot of socializing. People watching, coffee drinking, food eating, photo taking, alley exploring, road travelling, companion having.
Frankly, let’s just talk to start ok? We’ll know if we can actually hang out after the first 5 minutes. Low key, no expectations. I’d really love start socializing with some decent new people.
A Few Selected Appreciations:
Craftsmanship - A wet shave with a brush and razor; a cup of coffee - freshly ground and pressed; a fine suit. These things are representative of something I continue to strive towards and incorporate into my life. There is a lot to be said for these few examples, and the many others that embody the concept of craftsmanship. But for me, learning the art behind doing something very well (or paying for the fruits of that labour) is preferential to the alternatives. While not always affordable or feasible (I can't justify $10,000 suits or ignore a craving for coffee on the street), they are things that I will choose when presented with the opportunity. Additionally, learning to create myself, or appreciating the results of others works is something I receive enjoyment from.
The Rise and Fall - Humanity has accomplished stunning things. We have burrowed through mountains, channeled through continents, stretched into the sky and placed people into the cosmos. Without a doubt, we have taken our home and bent it to our will. But it is only a temporary arrangement. Without constant attention and care, our creations fall back to earth. Grass grows wild on the lawn, weeds peek through concrete, trees grow from the hulks of automobiles, and our shining towers crumble. Our story is long, and we write more pages every day, but like all civilizations we will one day write a final chapter for the next set of peoples to translate and read. It is this cycle that I adore. And it is this cycle that drives some of my interests. The last chapter in our tale will certainly be an incredible one and I'd love to see it. So would you. After all, haven't you ever been tempted to skip to the back of the book?
Jump Rope - Slip out of the business attire and into her sweats. From her sweats into a dress. From the soiree into a Tim Hortons. Many women can make transitions, but few can do it seamlessly. You however, need to be one of these people. Ultimately you are satisfied with doing as little as couch surfing and co-op baking. Indeed that's all you need to have a good day. But you are also ready to go any time the call comes. A woman who can balance... nay... play jump rope with these competing worlds is compelling and alluring in ways that I can not fully illustrate. The simplicity she exudes is augmented only by her ability to be tremendously complex on demand. Serious, but always smiling. Not schizophrenic, but dynamic. Controlled and aware. Possess these things, and you'll find a similar character on the other side of the message button.
The Rubber Band - I often find myself challenged with option paralysis. Or, alternatively, the inability to push myself outside of my comfort zone. I am aware that I do like to be challenged, but for me it a fine and delicate line. Too far out and I'll close up. Too far in and I'll just watch a movie or go for a walk. Too often and I tire. To get the best out of me, you'll have to be ready to nudge. Learn the times, learn the locations, and learn just how far you can stretch me to see my mind spring into action; to watch my extroversion take hold and compensate for uncertainties. It's an exciting event for me to experience. You'd enjoy it. And in turn, you can expect me to do the same for you. I would be thrilled to be there watching your mind expand with a unique experience. I believe that learning these nuances about a partner is one of the most critical and rewarding lessons that can be had. To turn two people into a pair of rubber bands, constantly flexing and growing; becoming better versions of themselves.
Want to help with a little experiment? If you've made it through the whole thing, and you decide you want to send a message... entitle it "pumpkin pie". Seriously. You won't have to come up with a witty title, you can indi