I'm not an average guy and I never will be.
And for the record, I've recently (mid-April) been spending time with someone who's not an average woman. A friend called her self-possessed *(to her face)* I'd call it capable, caring and willing to shine a hole in heaven. Can you tell I'm enjoying getting to know her?
I'm just saying, so there's no confusion where I stand here.
Now back to the profile...
I pay attention to things that most men don't know how to speak about and don't seem to be willing to learn about or listen to. I know some great guys who seem like they're just normal guys, you know. They're firefighters or EMT's or Chiropractors and talking to them makes so much sense. They're actually aware of the life they're living and of the people in their lives. It's great to know I'm not the only one who's not out drinking all the time or can't tell the difference between anger and sadness and drama.
My life has been full of wisdom and minor things that have made huge impacts on me. My friends would tell you it's who I am, that I'm extraordinarily caring. I'd say it's just what I pay attention to and that anyone could do the same if they chose to.
I'm the kind of guy who will take off on a whim for a day or weekend or a week to get away, go camping, go to the beach, swim in the ocean, go see something new, something old, meet new people and hear their stories. I'm the kind of guy who will drive for two hours to spend a few hours visiting a friend or walking and swimming then turn around and drive back home and never think that's an illogical way to spend time.
I've gone back to school to pursue a degree in medicine. It's been a bit of an adjustment with the hard sciences, but I got a good brain, so why not put it to good use working for me. It would be a shame to waste it breaking my back all day long, even though I do that too sometimes cause, hell, it's fun.
I have an active body-work practice where I assist clients to find more ease and relaxation in their bodies. What I do is from Osteopathy, like Chiropractic is, though it's far more gentle and has long-term, lasting effects. It's called Ortho-Bionomy and we apply it to the body as a whole, enabling us to resolve issues from sprains, trauma and pains to lingering emotional upset and heartache. I enjoy learning and strive to understand true healing on all levels.
I also teach a simple style of qigong for health and vitality and improved immunity.
I love nature and would spend time in the garden, outside, hiking, canoeing, swimming, swinging and anything else I can think of in the moment just about any time.
Basically, I love God and believe that God is unconditional love. To me it's that simple and the applications are endless, which is the paradox and immeasurable mystery I suppose.
I honestly would like a woman who knows herself and knows what is important to her and essentially enjoys her own company. I'm interested in someone who isn't looking for someone to complete her.
I believe a woman should be treated right, loved well and cared for with as much tenderness as possible.
This doesn't mean that I'm gonna buy you everything you want or need. I expect you to be able to take care of yourself and I expect there to be a healthy balance in any relationship.
When I marry and have children with someone, that'll be a different conversation then. Until then, I'll treat a woman like I would treat a princess: with respect, and as someone who knows her own mind.
I don't mind being wrong or being corrected or apologizing when I've done something that didn't land right.
Life is an ongoing conversation after all.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Well, a first date is kinda a collaboration isn't it.
Dinner's nice if there's an appetite or if it's spontaneous. That way there's no big expectation to get in the way of enjoying and being present with each other.
How about a walk? There's so many things to do on a date and I'd like to get to know the person I'm spending time with, so I'm not going to sit through a movie on a date. A movie isn't dating in my book. Dating is for getting to know someone, having a good time together and learning to love.
Dancing is always a great way to get to know someone.