| About | Smokes often with Average body type | City | brantford Ontario | |
| Details | 50 year old Man, 5' 8" (173 cm), Non-Religious | Ethnicity | Mixed Race Taurus with Brown hair |
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| I am Seeking a | Woman | For | Long Term | |
| Needs Test | View his relationship needs | Chemistry | View his chemistry results | |
| Do you drink? | Socially | Do you want children? | Does not want children | |
| Marital Status | Divorced | Do you do drugs? | No | |
| Pets | Dog | Eye Color | Brown | |
| Profession | Counsellor Addictions | Do you have children? | Yes | |
| Education | Some college | Do you have a car? | Yes |
Relationship
Intent understandingyou is looking for a relationship. |
Relationship History The longest relationship understandingyou has been in was over 10 years long. |
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About Me
Understand Why !!!
You Do What You Do.
Why You Do It.
To understand Why you do certain things you need to understand yourself first, you will need to look at many different Human Needs Factors honestly. There are human needs that each person needs to meet in order to Feel Happy, Safe, Strive and be Successful in Life. Some of these needs I speak about are Love and Belong, Fun, Power, Freedom and of course the physiological needs which are necessary for survival.
Love and Belonging;
Ask yourself if you could live without feeling Love, weather it comes from your husband or wife, family, a pet, a friend, its a need that we all need to fill in our lives. Belonging is similar as we all need to feel apart of a group, weather it be family to a bowling league, we all need to belong. What do you belong to?
Fun;
This one is easy, we all have fun in our lives, it comes natural. This can be in all facet of your life if you choose them to be there. There are reasons why you can't be happy and they are: Mental Health Issues, I'm not saying you can't find happiness in your life, you will need to have medical assistance to help balance your chemical Brain Make Up, for this you will need to find a good Doctor of Psychiatry to help you.
Power;
Let me ask you, Do you need to pick the restaurant, do you need to handle money issues, are you in control of the television or do you need to be the boss, C.E.O. of a major Manufacturing Company. If you fall into this group, you probably have a high need for power and control, if this is not controlled it can be devastating to your life. If you are controlling everything in your life, be sure that you are not pushing the important things in your life away, this is where you need to be honest with yourself, nobody likes to be told what to do all the time. Power is Power and needs to be used appropriately.
Freedom;
Is simply Freedom, if you have been in Jail you should understand Freedom, There is more to Freedom and Freedom involves the power, do you tell your wife or husband when they can and can not do certain things, when they can spend or go out with friends? you may have other problems. If you can't Trust someone then you need to give attention to those problems before the issues are to bad to repair, again be Honest with yourself, its the only way you can fix what's wrong.
Physiological;
Is your body's needs for survival, All of the above along with food and water, air and so on.
All of the above can be found in the William Glasser's Choice Theory and Reality Therapy books.
You do things because it makes you feel good to do them, It all comes from the pleasure center of the brain, if the pleasure center is happy with what your doing you will continue to do it. I will list a few thing that make most people happy, remember the pleasure centre controls the Human Needs we all have.
Not in any order,
Non- Harmful; Food, Exercise, Sex, Education, Socialization, I will stop and ask you to think about what you do to make yourself feel better.
Harmful. Crime to support Addiction, Missing time for work due to Addiction, Unprotected sex, Lying to get what you want, you will do all those things to get what you need to please your Pleasure center. Like it or not the Brain controls everything.
I think I should tell you about some Brain Disorders that will cause you some problems and they are;
ASPERGERS, ADD, ADHD, F.A.S.D. are all disorders that will cause you to make some changes in your life, you only need to know that you fall in one of those categories, and I can help your employees find the proper coping strategies that will bring more pleasure and happiness to your everyday life.
About me, I have a full life of different experiences to draw from, as a young boy I lived in a life of Alcohol and Poverty and then grew into the same life myself, this is call learned behaviour, it has taken me fifty years to understand myself and the changes I needed to make to change the cycle of life. Today I am by no means rich or have the big job title, what I am is Happy with life and what I have done.
For the past few years I have been working in Addictions as a counsellor, I have worked with poverty, I have worked with drug issues, I have worked with problem relationships and I have worked with inmates that have served long term sentences. Some have chosen to help themselves and others not, its completely up to you.
In closing I would like to help you to understand that for some it could take work and time to help, and for other it could be some simple adjustments that can help you, either way I can help you to find yourself and understand yourself and why you do what you do.
For employers I can help your staff become more productive, more innovative, more motivated and want to be at work on most days, for the other days I can help you with some copping strategies for those real bad days that we are all destined to have.
Addictions are not just drugs, but can affect your life the same way.
Make sure you know why you do the things you do and is it really getting you what you want?
First Date
Dating is a period where two people take time to get to know each other, In the first meeting I would like to do something that would tell me anything about your personal likes and dislikes, not always is this found in early conversation, if we are going to have a good,well balanced relationship we need to know how we look at life.
I could on and on about starting a relationship, but this is where I am going to stop.
Before a first date I would frist like to talk by phone or e-mail and just to get some feel of a possible connection.
Good luck, make sure you look for balance in your new life or it will be short.
I could on and on about starting a relationship, but this is where I am going to stop.
Before a first date I would frist like to talk by phone or e-mail and just to get some feel of a possible connection.
Good luck, make sure you look for balance in your new life or it will be short.
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