An experienced, worldly and progressive gentleman of eclectic means and tastes, who appreciates fine women and derives much pleasure from their company; with a confident lead of course.
I was raised outlaw southern (we invented all the best sins you know), traveled in my youth, had the good sense to move North, was very successful in the corporate world, and then traded in that security to live a country life operating an alternative retreat center. I listen carefully to running water, practice sustainable agriculture on my land, can put a sinfully sharp razors edge on a chisel and know what to do with it. I love things made with care and craft, consumer America frustrates me deeply. I am very forward thinking in my views, and also value the dance and play of traditional gender roles. Guess that makes me a hopelessly progressive romantic; carrying myself with a certain courtly manner for the right Lady. A tall Dr. Black to your Steel Magnolia.
Specs are: 6'4", 215lb, hard working real muscles (because I ate my spinach), soft beard, blue eyes, brown speckled hair. Hands that tell stories when they move. Dancin' feet. A sharp wit, observant eye and an appreciation of the goofy and absurd that is all around us. In a crowd I can pass for a Hippy Amish Farmer, or dress as "El Jefe" in a white linen suit. I truly enjoy and appreciate people, all kinds. I like to dance and make unusual, spur of the moment excursions to the odd and unknown; knowing the difference between taking a chance and taking a risk. The written word, Russian motorcycles, old sidearms and 10,000 pound rocks are my playthings; do ask! (it's in the pictures) As Mark Twain said: "If you find yourself bored when alone, imagine how others find you."
In my private life I have an excellent and long-term open relationship with my SO, we find our lives are richer when we each have a solid romantic partner outside of each other. I am not a swinger or into one night stands, and I function at a high level... it's the simple truth. So I look for the same kind of self assured class and maturity in my romantic friend. Short term is fun to think about, in as much as we all enjoy the elemental excitement of the chase. But I seek and value a long term romantic friend. I am emotionally present and my time is the most precious investment I can make. Because companionship and sensuality require practice in my view; and the brain is the greatest erogenous zone.
In a woman I value real conversation, a sharp mind, and gentle touch; as well as the hard blistered reality of her life and its' well earned lessons. You should like who you are right now; without drama or dysfunction. In fact, I insist. I especially appreciate the Art of the Feminine; a woman's innate strength and power, good taste and grace. A chainsaw wielding Lady in Gibson Girl skirts is a pleasing image. A fine Waltz is that image made real. I choose to invest my time and my brain with a woman who values her own; we should expect no less of each other. The physical chemistry is important, but attitude and character is what will make for magic, mystery and a soft, "Play it again, Sam."
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Any thing that promotes good conversation and a bit of the outdoors, necessary time and place for a "get to know you." Cheesecake, coffee and a walk in the park, (desert first!) or window shopping in Old Town. Of course if you dance, that would be perfect!