***Not Looking For, Or Wanting A Relationship Right Now***
I changed my relationship status to half of a lie. "Not single and not looking" in the hopes of reducing the amount of searches I come up in.
I am completely single and absolutely happy with that. The 'not looking' part is the reason that I chose it. Because selecting "Divorced" and stating that I'm not interested doesn't seem to stop the questions.
No, I don't have the time or child care for 'just one dinner/night out'. And no, I am not willing to be a personal tour guide. There... those are the two main ones.
They took away the option to hide the profile unless you are a paying member. I don't feel like paying, or starting over from scratch if I feel like looking around on the site (usually at the forums).
You want to talk, email. I'm OK with hit and run emails.
I have read some interesting profiles but can't even compliment the awesomeness due to mileage restrictions on the profile.
I'm in the beginning process of a two part (if all goes well) spinal surgery to put an end to my constant pain and enable me to walk properly again. I'm not looking to add going out and meeting people in to this mess, just talking would be a nice distraction.
Right now going to doctor appointments is pretty much what I do in my 'free' time. I'm not interested in making anything more complicated than it already is.
I am not a native to the area and once my youngest graduates high school (I've got seven more years), I don't plan on staying here. I'm not looking for a reason to stay here. I am here because I refuse to bounce my kids around. I'll use this time to research were I want to go next; alone or with someone, it does not matter to me at this point. It's all an adventure. Maybe in about five years I'll look at this differently. I've already had this profile up here for over five years as it is already. I won't rush or settle. Even snails get where they want to go eventually. And they take in the sights as well.
I've been on my own with my kids for over ten years, officially divorced nine years (just married and divorced the one time). I'm not hung up on any ex or looking for anyone to support me. I'm not into bars or partying and have no tolerance for drug use. Yes, I include pot in there.
I don't care what your argument for it is. I'm allergic to it and don't want it anywhere near me. The whole "won't smoke around you" thing doesn't work either. Kinda like wool.... I'm allergic to that too. If a sweater is only 10% wool it doesn't mean I'm 90% less likely to break out in an itchy rash.
Regarding the Undecided/Open on "Wants Kids"... I absolutely do NOT want, and can't have, any more bio kids. But I don't mind if someone has kids or grand kids. Clear as mud?
I'm not into organized religion. I've declared Pastafarianism as my religion on the Boy Scout forms because they require a 'belief in a higher power' (Bonus! I pass background checks.) And every year after I work the Day Camp I tell them that I'm still thinking about what felony I will commit that will get me out of it the next year with just a slap on the wrist for first time offenders. ;-)
Anyway... I don't need to go to a specific building to be considered a good person. My moral compass works just fine with out it. So if you are looking for someone to sit in a church pew with you every week, it's not me. I'm not an atheist, just not into what organized religion tries to cram down my throat or in my bed. I will not be converted and if there is a hell, I'm already living in it. So back off and let me 'burn' go 'save' someone else.
It seems a lot of people want to know if I'm for UofL or UK. Honestly, I don't care about either one. I didn't attend either school so why should I care? I barely own more than a handful of things with the logo of the University I got my two degrees at.
I've seen quite a few "must have a photo to contact this user" on profiles with out photos themselves. Not private photos, but NO photos. Really? Do these people understand what the word hypocrite means, and how it applies to them?
And the 20 year old pics? Yeah. You keep telling yourself you look the same. You know what. I still fit in the same earrings I wore when I was in high school. And damn I look amazing in them. :-) But I still look DIFFERENT! They really are awesome earrings, little silver roses (yeah I'm one of the few that dislikes gold.)
I read both male and female profiles on here. It's not easy pickings for either gender... unless it's for comedy... like when someone says they are intelligent, but spells it wrong.
If your profile consists of "ask me" (No, a lot of people won't because you haven't given reason enough to care to ask you a single thing)
or the lame ass excuse "if I put it all in here what would we talk about" (That implies you are boring as hell if it can all be crammed in this tiny box.)
Go hit the edit button and think of something a bit more original. Think of it as an interview. You are trying to sell yourself.
Well, in my case, I am trying to be off putting because I'm not looking to date and have said so repeatedly. But some people can't read, or don't think it applies to them.
I'm not looking to date right now. Just seeing if there is any intelligent life out there. (Apparently not so far.. come on people, spell check is free!)
My kids are with me all the time (I don't get the every other weekend free like I'm supposed to. Never have, and won't hold my breath on that ever happening either.)
With kids, animals, volunteering, meetings, life in general I'm already pretty busy.
You (general you) would have to be pretty damn patient to deal with that.
And from what I've experienced, that just doesn't exist (intelligence in this area, or patience in general.)
So... nope... not even going to attempt to date. Wouldn't be fair to anyone.