If we had a mutual friend who wanted to introduce us to each other, I wonder what they'd say about each of us?
I think they'd tell you that, with me, you'd discover a really interesting man with depth, an inspired and inspiring sense of wonder and possibility, a very unusual and entrepreneurial career, great listening and speaking skills, great hands, an unpredictable and fabulous sense of humor, an ability to not take himself too seriously, a worldly attitude and love for travel, and an allergy for silly and unnecessary dating games (+ an allergy for cats, and another for untrustworthy mechanics).
If they were telling me about you, I'd be hoping to hear about a great sense of humor, a desire to be inspired and uplifted, a hunger for mutual respect and admiration with a partner, a strongly sensual side, a great salsa recipe, and maybe even looks good in fuschia or chartreuse. I'm kidding about the last 2. Nobody looks good in chartreuse, and nobody normal uses the word, fuschia, let alone the color.
If we met and both enjoyed fabulous chemistry, everything would feel magical and easy. While every relationship requires effort and commitment to maintain, "falling for someone" compatible usually feels easy and wonderful in the beginning. So I'm always hoping for that natural ease... combined with sparks.
One of my favorite quotes:
“There is something about words. In expert hands, manipulated deftly, they take you prisoner. Wind themselves around your limbs like spider silk, and when you are so enthralled you cannot move, they pierce your skin, enter your blood, numb your thoughts. Inside you they work their magic.” -- Diane Setterfield, from The Thirteenth Tale
If you, like me, recognize the power of words and elegant communication as the doorway to an amazing conversation... possibly an amazing connection, with the potential for undeniably growing attraction and ... maybe even sparks?
... then maybe we're of like minds...
... then maybe we might enjoy each other's company...
... then say hello!
If what I've written above speaks to you in some deep way... then please do take the time to write me a note. Tell me more about yourself or just get the conversation started by responding to something I've written above.
My best to you, and I do look forward to hearing from you!
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I believe in dating, NOT for the purposes of seeing as many women as possible on any ongoing basis, but solely for the purpose of "exploring" whether or not you and I could be an incredibly good fit, or match.
Let's email or chat first until we're both comfortable, move to phone, then take it to a short meeting as soon as we both know we want to meet in person. I believe in something informal to begin with, coffee, a drink, etc.
I don't think a first meeting from online dating should be a "first date." Let's take the pressure off... such that if we do get to a first date, we'll both be looking forward to it with delightful curiosity and anticipation!
So for a first meeting... let's simply grab some coffee, or meet for a drink. Or go somewhere where we can walk & talk. I think first meetings are for assessing chemistry and learning about each other, don't you think?