I'm not seeking love of Self through love for another. If you cannot love your Self, you cannot love another. Relationships fail when we see them as life's grandest opportunity to create and produce the experience of our highest conceptualization of another. Let each of us worry about Self-what self is being, doing, having; what Self is wanting, asking, giving; what Self is seeking, creating, experiencing. I am looking for someone who is willing to open up and be honest, and also willing for me to be honest. Age, race, children, income, and the like are not really factors. I can sincerely say I am only looking for the connection at the heart. The most loving person is the person who is Self-centered. It matters only what you're being in relationship to this.