I'm from Alabama, but tha' don' mean nothin', 'cept I talk differn't 'n you do. :)
I really need to make sure I keep this updated more often :)
I was busy with life for a while, and forgot I had put this site "on pause" until I could get caught up. No wonder it was so quiet on here ;)
It says I am "looking for a relationship", and in one sense, that's not true- Looking for one never seems to work, as opposed to just letting it happen. So I guess I am more "waiting for a surprise".
I moved here to see the ocean in all her beautiful fury and power, and to watch the sun dive into her depths at night. I wanted to be scintillated by the solitude of land's edge against my skin, caressing me with delicate, razor-sharp daggers of fear and excitement. I desired to penetrate nature, naked in my insignificant helplessness within Gaia's will. I wanted to immerse myself here in the "Land of Dreams", and find what I had been waking for.
(by "talking different", I didn't just mean the accent- I love waxing poetic as long as I don't have to do it out loud, heh heh)
So I have been searching myself to discover what my purpose is in life, and I expect to explore myself until I discern just what exactly I am here for, though I think that that very exploration, may, in fact, be it. There is too much beauty, symmetry, and elegance for the cosmos not to have some schedule of events, and I would like to think that my actions will benefit the future in some way. I daily require intelligent conversation, honest opinions, and a willingness to play. I listen to most kinds of music, but love 80's music and industrial. I love TOOL, Paramore, NIN, The Orb, Tom Petty, and so many more. I would like to get out more and do more outdoors activities, so if you are a good motivator, please feel free to show me what there is to do in nature out here. Either that, or you can sit around and couchlock to the hum of the TV with me.
I'm hoping to find friends here, of course, with the possibility of more if we gel well. I like to think I have a good, if sometimes dark, sense of humor. I try to be on time, but I have a long history of being temporally displaced. I've been told I'm a good listener, and I can often see both sides of the story. I love good food, and enjoy finding new places to get incredible dishes.
I have been kind of a homebody/hermit for a while now, working through some crises of convenience and building (or burning) bridges as necessary. That's given me plenty of time to cogitate on myself, and to meditate on everything else. So far, I've learned that nothing goes completely as expected (nothing can truly be completely expected), that balance is relative even in society (as long as you give money more weight than it deserves), and that ignorant people will trample you if you let them, anywhere and everywhere they have opportunity. Not because they are evil, but because they are willfully ignorant and afraid, and just need to feel better than someone, ANYone.
If any of that sounds interesting to you, why don't you get in touch with me? I'm not a stalker, I'm not a pervert (well, too much of one }:) ) and I'm not a loser. I've got three good reasons for us to meet. All you need is one. Wanna know more about me? I have pretty much rejected the commercial, privacy-threatening intent of all the social networks, so don't expect to find me on "my face-space" or anything like that. I am much better socially when I am actually doing something social, rather than typing out things that pop into my head at random :) Just remember, I only read this way: my mouth moves much slower, so I might seem quiet :)
I guess I should point out that you should live reasonably close by, say within an hour or so? I recently learned how a long distance relationship can raise expectations, and that I am not as prepared for adulthood as I thought. Having just turned 40, this is a problem. Mostly for me, though, so you should be alright. :)
In sincerity, if you have it all together and are successful, be aware I am STILL awaiting my certificate and handbook on how to act as a grown-up, and so still think I am in my 20-30's, bordering on the teens, occasionally. Not as a mid-life crisis, or anything like that, just as a day-to-day. I am just responsible enough to fake looking like a grown-up until I learn how to do it for real.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I dunno, I like surprises, so maybe something spontaneous we find in the paper, like a hike through the marsh, or Rock Band at the casinos or something neither of us has done before. I've never been skydiving, but you better be really amazing if you expect me to follow you out of a perfectly good airplane: I'm gaining a fear of heights the older I get! ;P
Seriously, though, I am open to new experiences, and care more about who I am sharing it with. I'd walk to a gas station with a martian and enjoy the trip immensely, as long as he drank his fill and never thirsted. I've spent hours alone looking up through a telescope, and walked by myself miles along (mostly Gulf Coast) beaches observing the constant variability of the waves, the stars, and all of the wonders of the universe. I'm not afraid of having some time to enjoy myself but it sure would be nice to have some company, especially if they didn't so much NEED me as much as they WANTED to be with me.
I also appreciate a woman making the majority of first date choices for many reasons, one of them being her feelings of safety and comfort. I often get self-conscious feelings that I might be pushing too hard to be interestingly different yet honest, and just come off deranged. I know if she chooses the venue, she will automatically feel more relaxed -or at least probably has a politely discrete exit strategy. :P
Kudos and cool points if you get the Heinlein reference.