First, do not ask me for pictures unless you plan on paying me first! I don't do free contract work and anything else is just simply below me.
I have met a few men from here who were insincere and somehow define their manhood in being a fraud or bullsh*t artist. Really? Life is too short and I am entirely too genuine to enjoy the bullsh*t or yo-yo games of a man who is "I like you" then cold, then hot, then cold. If I wanted to deal with an emotional rollercoaster, I would date women!!!! REQUIRED: GENUINE, HONEST, GENTLEMAN, THE TYPE OF MAN ANY MOM WOULD BE PROUD OF, WITH THE ABILITY TO LOVE AND TRULY BE COMPASSIONATE TO MY FEMALE SENSITIVITIES. A MAN WHO IS BRAG WORTHY AND ONE I CAN ADMIRE!! Seeking grounded and sustained goodness in a man,
I tend to make friends easy, it is finding true "keepers" with good souls that is the challenge. So, if you are a truly good person and an awsome man....you rock!! If you are seeking a "for now" type of connection, that is NOT me. Whether friends or lasting gf/bf husband/wife relationships, I believe in sustained long term relationships. Although, I will say that men say they want to be friends, but my experience is most are incapable of being friends as sex is typically the agenda.
PAY ATTENTION MEN--WOMEN ARE BUTTERFLIES, NOT TO BE TRAPPED/CAUGHT, BUT APPRECIATED. SHE WILL STAY IF YOU TREAT HER RIGHT!!! I am a butterfly and have been told I am angel. Shine the sun on me and give me your beauty and show me the flowers in your heart and I will play and stay in your garden. Break my wings and I will be forced to fly on my broom. ;)
Want to be ignored? Keep on moving creepy picture collectors! I dont like a leering & inappropriate man in an in person meeting so why would I like on here?
I get tons of messages with negative comments, personal assessments that are less than positive and then those men wonder why they get BLOCKED. Intelligent and attractive women who respect themselves and are used to QUALITY men can see these signs right up front. So....if you are stupid or just attempting to waste your time....send me a stupid message. For all the positive and intelligent men out there...we all know this portion of my profile does not apply to you. I am amazed at how many men wonder why they don't get the bee or butterfly? DUHHH...try using honey!!!
Here is what is funny: Do we change much from when we were three? I am not sure we do? So...a man sees my profile and much like a boy who wants the toy ..he tries to get it. Maybe he sends a message or two and he does not THINK about what he is saying b/c he is "reacting" to his desires...so he says something stupid or rude or inappropriate....OR with little effort (lazy). Then..b/c he doesn't get what he wants....he utters some rude comments including but not limited to "no wonder why you are single"....as if to throw the toy down and stomp...having a baby trantum. Please boys.....I am seeking MEN. No babies need to apply!!!!! No males with anger problems or rage issues, violent tendancies or attitude b/c I am seriously not the one! LOL
HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.....
If you are ALWAYS missing during the evening hours or "unavailable", I have no interest in a person who exhibits signs they are married or otherwise entangled. I am well aware of what it is like when a man is interested and takes the steps to (1) get to know me (2) share himself with me and (3) grow/move along to developing steps to something real. Remaining "casual" and "random" does not encompass any of that substance. Anyone who can only talk to me only in the daytime, online and very short or rushed conversations at all other times (in addition to just being completely unavailable) is of no interest to me. Life is too short. I am not a cheater but men like this...by the time they pull their head out of their ass....will be gravely surprised and devistated when a woman "easily walks" or "occupies her time with a wonderful man". I believe in "investing" in a great person, in amazing and remarkable experiences and supporting the best type of man. So, if you do these dumb ass things it sends me and every other woman the message you are not interested, or not intelligent or simply spreading yourself (which is just straight nasty). Moreover, it sends the message that you are not worthy of being invested in as a "best of the best" type of man.
Great news!!!! I don't spend my time trying to figure it out if you send me vibes that "you are just not that into me". And..honestly..get real...if you are attracted to me...don't you think someone else is and therefore occupying my time when you are off playing games. I have been graced with some great relationships....with men with some amazing qualities...thereby setting the bar high...so why would I tolerate rift raft. The reality is...no matter what comes out of man's mouth (useless words), they only have value when his conduct shows "HE IS INTO YOU"...and NOT "when it is convenient" for him...but consistant "action" is what defines a man...not empty words, compliments or flirting. A man who disappears and fails to communicate, share or bond apparently does not fear that my fine, beautiful, smart, sexy, savvy, intelligent ass is not being snatched up by another man. As such, I have no use for such a low valued man. ----->I can hear my dad, "He has someone else and thinks you are going to wait for him or be a sucker....or he is JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" and views you with little respect and things he can treat you as a piece of ass. Okay dad...you win! I apparently I have to put this direction on here. If this speaks to you..get on the short bus and keep on moving. LOL. Someday these men figure it out...after they are popped bellied, can't operate their parts the same, realize their face and hair are aging and that "she" has options too and they let her slip right by. Moreover,I usually run into these same men and they still are picky B.S. women "who will put up with their bad behaivor". Realize....spending time and finding someone....taking steps with every minute towards your future is an "investment" of you time. Men who operate like this settle for women who tolerate such conduct--these same women often come with baggage, liabilities, and at times complications (money and lifestyle) related to mouths to feed and ex's. Because these same women don't respect themselves....it is not shocking when they "let themselves go" or "cheat on you". And yet...b/c they tolerate this and have low standards and are "easy to please"....they are the same women YOU WILL COMPLAIN ABOUT WHEN YOU SEE ME IN THE MARKET 5 YEARS FROM NOW. Yes....I have spent the last 20 years experiencing these same stupid men.
Make me an offer I can't refuse.
This answer depends upon the person and the connection. I hope it is not some boring "meet me for coffee" routine....I find that to be lacking in effort and imagination on sooo many levels! Something enjoyable, fun, memorable, ect.
I do know one thing. This site is full of men who like to chat/text and engage in endless time sucking efforts headed NO WHERE. If you message me a few times and we go back and forth and you fail to ever ask me out, you will be thereafter ignored. I get emails from the same assclowns from the last time I joined years ago....never amounting to anything. These males need to pull out their credit cards and call a chat line. I am not here for your games.
PLEASE DO NOT SEND RANDOM INVITES TO CHAT WITHOUT FIRST EITHER KNOWING ME OR INTRODUCING YOURSELF THROUGH AN EMAIL. I DO NOT SIT IN FRONT OF THE PC WITH MY TIME AND CHAT WITH RANDOM PEOPLE. LIFE IS TOO SHORT. SPEND THE TIME INTRODUCING YOURSELF PLEASE.
Fun things: kayaking, small get aways, drives up/down the coast, horseback riding, rafting, wine tasting, beer tasting, comedy clubs, golf, shooting guns, the batting cages...ect.