I do believe in instant attraction and also in instant non attraction. I believe personality is as important as looks and to get to know a person you first must be atracted to the person. No I am not looking for perfection,just atraction.
I do not like deception and I have been deceived, lied to , cheated on , and used...The feature that captures my attention is love of life. Good looks and sense of stability. She must know what she wants in life and will go for it.
In our free time, my ideal match and I would go for long walks in the great outdoors. Spend cold winter nights cuddled on the couch and warm summer nights around the campfire after a day of hiking or just sitting around the campsite. Ending a day of sightseeing with a quiet dinner and a movie or dancing. spontaneous decisions are the best.
The thing that I appreciate most in a partner is loyalty. I am looking for a one man woman. I have been lied to, cheated on, deceived , and taken advantage of. I like my life being simple, and would rather spend it alone than have it full of disappointments. I would most appreciate a companion who will give and take on a equal terms ....
On a typical day I rise early and work long hours. Being in management I have times of stress and also times of complete serenity. The people that work for me often say I am the best boss they have ever had. I manage by leadership not by intimidation. I do not expect my people do anything I would not do myself. And correction is best done by calm reaction not by sarcasm and loud dominating speech. I once worked for someone and know exactly what causes friction in the workplace.
My feeling on love-at-first-sight is that physical attraction is a must. Sure it is what is inside that counts, but if you cannot look in the eyes you can never see the inside. I believe that lasting relationships start with a look that attracts one to another. If I like what I see I am more apt to look inside. To be honest I am not looking for that "Model" type. What is gold to one is copper to another. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder..
At middle age,, in the dating world, Looks plays a large part in choosing on that someone to spend your life with because the thought of being alone is not a lifetime long anymore. Being alone is not so bad but companionship is a gift from God.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
a first date would be for coffee or lunch just to get to know you..
early in the evening or afternoon " just in case " spontaneous decision to go walking or to see a local atraction...