Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Playing the "Job interview game" in a nice and quiet restaurant.
I will answer the questions during appetizer (she will have a divided attention at the menu and wine list, than my answers; I can eat during the main course while she struggles between food and answering), then I will put the questions and enjoy my fillet mignon, and in the end we put on the table the results and see who got the job or who lost. The desert will sweeten the victory or the loss :)
Do not forget also, that after one or two glasses of wine, the chemistry is moved on second plan , while the conversation become more loose and slowly start sliding in a free slope toward the true, anxiety is gone , and the intellectual bond start to develop.
Romans were right when they said: “In vino veritas” translate to English as “ In wine we find the true”
Now, in the serious side, I suggest:
GET CONNECTED. It is like an interview for a job. Make your partner to want to meet you again. Talk enough about yourself to make the other curious to want to know more, but in the same time be a good listener. Do not dominate the event with your supper achievements or the story of your life because shortly she will lose interest on you. Listen and pay attention to what she said, because later you will remember that you were told that, but you were paying attention to her cleavage and her words were passing near to your ear. Have a lot of fun, tell jokes, but listen too. Do not expect to jump on her bed on the return home, and if you are lucky enough to get a kiss, be thankful to that. The time will come for the intimates' encounters. I see the first date to a concert, show, sport event, or similar like that, follow by dinner in a nice and cozy restaurant, or if she want, replace the restaurant with a dance club, walk on the streets at two in the morning hand in hand, drive her home, and from there let your imagination fly