A few years ago, on the Fourth of July, I was the only straight man at a barbecue with lots of members of the gay bear community and the men who like them (Don't ask me how I got invited). By the end of the night, I had a bunch of phone numbers (even after I explained that I'm hetero), and got flirted with a lot. This happens to me less frequently in a mixed party. I'm sure part of it is that women can often be less demonstrative than men, that the men at the party felt very safe to act on their impulses, and that being a big, round, hairy bear daddy does not fit society's GQ or Cosmo standard for male beauty, which heterosexual women are more likely to subscribe to than gay men.
So: I know that there are there women who find big, round-bellied, hairy bear men sexy, and that you browse Plenty of Fish. It's not like I'm going to shave off my facial hair, and get a body wax anytime soon. Who I am is vibrant, sexy, and hilariously funny. I'm not going to wish I could be something I'm not, so I'm taking the approach that who I am is sexy to some women, and then go meet those women. I know that there is a bear fetish among gay men, but there's also a bear fetish among women who date men, and that's who I'm looking for. After all, the term BBW (with the second B often having ambiguous meaning) has become common parlance here on Plenty of Fish, so why not straight bears as well?
I'm a bear daddy. You're the adorable she-cub I nuzzle, lick, protect. That's the way you and I like it, and not the other way around. I feel instinctively protective of the women I adore. I am affectionate, devoted, and doting to the woman who merits my esteem. I am looking for a woman who deserves the adoration and respect and protection (and sometimes discipline) I have to provide.
You are the kind of woman who, if you like me, isn't hesitant to show it. If you parcel out approval, affection, or intimacy in small, controlled doses, go find someone else. I don't care how big you are, as long as your tummy doesn't stick out too far past the girls upstairs. I love the classic, voluptuous hourglass shape much better than the pear shape, to be honest.
You love it when Stephen Colbert breaks the fourth wall by laughing in the middle of one of his routines.
You are wide awake!! You are not merely sleepwalking through life. You have a deep empathy for other people and the sadnesses they carry with them. You understand that we are all still frightened children deep down inside, and you love us all anyway. In particular, you love men, faults and all.
You understand that the world didn't miraculously spring into existence the day you were born. You know what the world was like before you were here to grace it, and you harmonize with older melodies.
You enjoy wearing a dress or a skirt at least once in a while, even if there's nothing compelling you to do so.
I generally tend to be either monogamous or monogamish in my serious relationships.
Long term, I am looking for a woman who appreciates and supports my Jewish life. She need not be born Jewish, but she wants to be part of the tribe in some meaningful way. I don't avoid interfaith relationships (sometimes they can be more supportive of my religious life than intrafaith relationships), and I'm certainly willing to date a non-religious woman as long as she was supportive of my religious life.