Well let’s see, ME:
I have three beautiful little girls ages 5, 9 and 11 years old. I really love being their father, all the hugs and kisses and playing with them allows me to both be a guide to them as they grow and to be a kid with them when we play - a pretty good deal, if you ask me! That said my 50:50 time share with their mother allows free time for us until the time comes when its appropriate to introduce a partner to them and we could spend these fun times together. I think the attractive side of this is that they're young enough that they would likely really benefit not only from what a good partner could bring to me, but also bring to them.
Let's see ... I'd say my virtues are that I'm positive, an 'every cloud has a silver lining' sort. Although having said that, I have to admit there are occasions that a period of reflection is required to determine just what that silver lining is, or was. I have a good work ethic and believe, irrespective of how difficult some things can be, there is always learning and experience to be gained and so tend not to shy away from most things. I try to find balance in life. I like the path that life has taken me/I have taken and I feel pretty fortunate for what I have been able to do and where I am in life.
I suppose, to be fair to you, I should balance the above with, WEAKNESSES:
Yeah right! As if this isn't a loaded question. ``My weaknesses are that I try so hard to please the person I`m with that I sometimes ignore my own needs``, Would you beleive me if I said that? But seriously I'd suggest that I usually want people around me to be happy and I prefer to avoid conflict, so I generally do try to spend the time to try to achieve peace and happiness (except when I'm hungry and then all I really want is food) and if I goof-up I`ll likely be reflecting on why I goofed-up and will want to learn from the goof-up so as not to repeat it. So, in a nutshell, I'm not a sociopath (LOL).
In general, I'd say I am pretty fit and enjoy exercising (the calm from the endorphines and the happiness of knowing you got some exercise) and I think that someone who feels the same way about fitness would be good. Fun for me includes such things as: gym, walk/hike, bike, rollerblade, tennis, snow and water ski, SCUBA diving, camping, anything on a beach in the sun, cottaging, going for a spin on my motorcycle (I bought a Harley last summer, my first `man toy` - it was a used bike and I got it for a good price, I still feel a bit guilty as if I was taking food from my daughter`s mouths (LOL) and I'm really surprised how much I enjoy going for a spin! There really is something to having a warm breeze in your face, although I could do without the bugs in the face, they can REALLY sting when you hit them at 80+ km/hr!) and ice hockey (I really enjoy tearing around the ice). I also like relaxing and reading newspapers, magazines, books, movies, just being a lazy bones. Simple stuff like going to a park on a nice day, a walk and just talking. If someone considering me as a partner and enjoyed some of these things (not all of these of course, but, IF you did, GREAT!), that would be a huge bonus!
I REALLY enjoy almost any opportunity to travel (although it's so difficult saying goodbye to the girls - boo hoo). I tend more towards backpacking type travel and really treasure the opportunity to meet new people and see new places. Travel has been a great window into the world in all its glorious complexities and chaos. Trips abroad are always enlightening and I have had some incredible experiences, and met some great people – e.g. 1 1/2 years volunteer work doing community development projects (built a bridge, a medical clinic and community center in indigenous villages in Central America and the Canadian Arctic - yes, I`m trying to tell you I`M UNIQUE!). Regarding travel, yes, I also like to relax on a beach and there's never anything too wrong with a 5-star hotel (well, except if it's surrounded by poverty - I just can't do that), but I've met far more interesting people and experienced far more exciting things in many ``back-packer`` hotels. I`ve found sort of throwing oneself into such situations (not recklessly however – that’s just dangerous) are a great way to expose oneself to differnet cultures and in doing so, I am always amazed to see the similarities between people of different cultures in far-off corners of the world. You realize quickly that we`re all very similar, however for us here in the developed world, we simply happened to be born somewhere with many more opportunities than those offered to others.
Other - I speak a couple of languages (Spanish and kind of poor French) and would love to learn more languages. I think I'm pretty intelligent and can express myself quite well.
WHAT I VALUE IN A COMPANION:
I’d be VERY attracted to someone who values personal fitness (for whatever reasons), is nice (being nice is ... well ... I think about the nicest attribute anyone can have), a pretty smile, has a good sense of humour, has a preference to eat healthy (most of the time), is naturally inquisitive and adventurous and is also reflective and self realized (I mean that they know themselves and not afraid to continue to learn about themselves and adapt with that learning). Really, someone who you'd describe as naturally attractive and relatively confident in their appearance vs someone who feels they need to spend a lot of time ensuring they look 'just right' - does that make sense?
I don't know if I believe in the good fortune of meeting a soul mate. I guess I`d be more inclined to believe that a soul mate is created based on the combined interests and experiences of a couple over time. So, I'd love to find that person and begin such a journey and build such a relationship. It would be great to have both a best friend AND an intimate partner.
If any of what I’ve written resonates with you, then please say hello!
Probably a drink (I'm one of those that seldom drinks coffee), a snack, maybe dinner. The opportunity to share some stories and determine our compatability. If the weather was nice we could hopefully go for a stroll afterwards and talk some more. Who knows, maybe we would end up on a park bench sitting close to one another chatting and if things seemed to really be going well, at the end of the evening we might even try a kiss to see what it felt like.