As I consider writing something for this section I think back to past relationships and things that led to what was good in these relationships. I find it usually begins with simple friendship based on common interests and activities. That kind of seems simple and easy doesn't it?
So, here are some interest, activities and characteristics that describe me and what I am attracted to in others.
First, I am the father of 3 beautiful daughters, my “princesses”, ages 8, 12 and 14 and a Golden Retriever. It's great being their father (even the dog's, now that he’s trained), all the hugs and kisses (even the dog's kisses), playing with them, sharing with them, listening to them, trying to guide them. Of course it’s also a lot of work, but that said my time sharing the children with their mother allows free time for developing a relationship and spending fun times with someone special.
I think I'm a positive person, an “every cloud has a silver lining” sort (okay, sometimes some reflection is required in order to find that silver lining), I tend to be analytical, modest and self deprecating. I think I'm intelligent and I am well educated, easy going, I try not to judge, I like to laugh, find life interesting and amusing and know how fortunate I am to have experienced what I have in life. I'm creative (handy with my hands, I build things) and adventurous (travel, trying new things - I recently tried kite surfing while in Vietnam) and I believe balance in life is important. It's important for me to be in decent physical shape, I regularily play hockey and go to the gym (if you were someone who is a Goodlife member maybe there's some fitness time we could share together). I like the outdoors, cottaging, bicycling, SCUBA, tennis, water skiing, riding my motorcycle (it feels like my horse and I'm galloping off through ttraffic), camping, movies,walks along the lake shore, neighborhoods and love to travel (I didn't start with the objective of 'keeping score', but last count I've had the fortune to work or travel in 76 different countries and have experienced some great times and the occasional intriguing adventure), often straying off the beaten path.
Do you share any of these interests? It would be great if you did so we could do some of them together.
I know I'm not perfect. For example, I try to be punctual, but sometimes I can be a bit of a doddler, or I just can't seem to herd the three rabbits (my daughters) in the time I allocated (I get a couple going and one has stopped to nibble grass, then I get her focused and one of the other ones has now stopped to nibble grass), but if I'm late it's infrequent and I'll call to let you know I'm on my way. I, of course, am very forgiving of your being late.
If you'd describe yourself as someone who likes to be active and do stuff, but can also take it easy, share dinner, relax and watch a movie I think we'd get a long great! You'd also hopefully value personal fitness be intelligent and educated and above all, simply nice (being nice is ... well ... I think about the nicest attribute anyone can have). I'd hope you have a warm and pretty smile that you hopefully show freely and often, a good sense of humour and you like to laugh. I think these characteristics would describe me and I'd add that we'd also likely get along if you shared my inquisitive sense and like me were somewhat adventurous and had some creative juices (whatever the form of creativity), was reflective and self realized (I mean that you're self confident, yet eager to continue to grow). Hoping to find someone who considers a relationship a partnership. You know I had previously written that "you're not looking for a relationship to change your life" and on reflection I realized that of course our being happy together would of course enhance our lives, but equally it would change our lives. That would be nice. What do you think?
Do a few of the things I describe as my passions resonate with you? Please note, fitness minded and active are pretty important to me as these are some important lifestyle decisions that are pretty unwavering. I'd think the characteristics I describe of myself and hope to share with you aren't too extreme, or unusual. If you agree and if these also describe you then I think we have some chemistry. If you think so, please say hello.
Ugh! I don't like to say this, but one little thing, I get greetings where people will write "Hi", or "Hey there" and that's it! Am I supposed to reply? Do I write "Hi" in return? At that rate its going to take us forever to get to know one another. So please, if you think you see something in my profile that's of interest and you're thinking to say hello, please consider striking-up a conversation. I always write something like: "hey I noticed ... about you and that interested me, I'd like to get to know you better." It seems then at least I've communicated my interest. I find "Hi" or "Hey there" so vague. I don't know how to respond and may not if that's the extent of the greeting. Sorry.
I wish you all the best in your search.
Probably best to keep it simple, low key. Maybe something like I pick you up in a chartered helicopter, we soar over Niagara Falls before landing on a roof top to gain access to a private dining room where Sting is giving us a private concert.
Oh! a tad too much?
Okay, how about a drink at a convenient location, maybe a walk and drink, something simple.
I'll hold the helicopter until the second date.