| About | Non-Smoker with Big & Tall/BBW body type | City | Kemptville Ontario | |
| Details | 56 year old Man, 5' 7" (170 cm), Other Religion | Ethnicity | Caucasian Capricorn with no hair |
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 Jan, 2012 |
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| I am Seeking a | Woman | For | Long Term | |
| Needs Test | Not Completed | Chemistry | Not Completed | |
| Do you drink? | Socially | Do you want children? | Prefer Not To Say | |
| Marital Status | Divorced | Do you do drugs? | No | |
| Pets | No Pets | Eye Color | Hazel | |
| Profession | Thought Provoker | Do you have children? | All my kids are over 18 | |
| Education | Some college | Do you have a car? | Yes |
Relationship
Intent Insouciant is looking for a relationship. |
Relationship History The longest relationship Insouciant has been in was over 10 years long. |
Interests
About Me
Hello: I feel I have been blessed in this life. I have loved several women, really loved them. And I had my hart broken each time of course when they left. But even that is, like the saying goes, 'tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Again I say I have been blessed. Not once, not twice but thrice. And out of that love, four children, three of them mine I have been told. And I loved them all too.
So, if you see me and I look distracted or sad, know it is not just the loss of those four children and three great loves that vex me, but rather how to fall in love again to get over having loved before. I need someone to understand that and be willing as I am, to understand we are not the first love and those other loves never died for us, just got broken. It's not even something to be jealous of, though I am sure I still will be just a little bit even if I don't mention it. I know that we could not have hurt that bad without love that good. I want to fall in love again and I want you to fall inlove with me. I will work to make that happen, let it. You need to work at it too.
IMPORTANT NOTE: If you are on psych meds and/or hand them out don't bother writing me unless you want moral support to get off that harmful stuff.
Other than that, please feel free to read on and contact me.
Anything else I wrote here falls short in terms of importance TO ME except this next sentence, which I took from someone else's profile.
"Will trade kindness, love, respect and loyalty for same."
I just love the power of that much simplicity.
What else is there for me to say of myself that I wish to share here? I am a man, which is to say, a spirit with a body, male, human, on this earth at this time and, as is said, perhaps for just a little while. I have love to share and I would love one honestly passionate like minded woman with the same problem for a mutual, monogamous, long term (this lifetime) solution:)
I like walking, intelligent conversation, joking around, writing, cooking, motorcycling, fixing other people's computer issues, fishing, camping, and long pleasant drives with good company, and my privacy.
I have become a big man for my height. Having let myself go, I am on my way back. Those inches and that weight are going back to normal, so you will just have to take me now or miss out on the new me later:)
Taste in music? I like the best of any type, blues, jazz, classical, tribal, rock, C/W, anything really as long it is on good equipment, or live and not too erratic or the other extreme of same beat ad nauseam
Dancing? Yes I like to dance. It’s been a while but I am good at the good ol two-step (C/W) and a good teacher, so I have been told.
This should not be too complicated. We find things to like in each other, ignore the rest and bring out the best in each other.
That is if we can get past the first test of being able to stand the sight of each other. If we can, we go on to try facing the thought of each other as our lover. We can laugh or faint or cry as the case may be. And if we just can’t stand it, we can try thinking the thought again once we have the lights out and bags over both our heads. If we still can’t stand the thought of it, we can get so drunk we don’t care, can’t see and won’t remember. It’s a joke, I am joking, relax, and take it easy I am not serious, I would remember.
All kidding aside, I would like to get decisions made one way or the other then and there, at our first meeting. We will know at the first one if we want a second. I don’t do serial dating or date multiple partners.
Having a live lover is what having a love life is about and is what makes it possible, yes? And that is what POF is for, yes? By lover I mean lover, not just sex partner. There is a difference worthy of notice. I want you to know that I know and appreciate the difference. I expect you to know and appreciate the deference too.
And though I have been loaded down with much painful loss I still know the life force of both individuals is nurtured (or not) in this thing we call a love life. And so, I am now seeing it is a matter of survival as much as it is a mater of romance that I do get out of the condition of being single and back into a condition of a close loving relationship with a member of the opposite sex again. If you are aware the same applies to you, we can start there with at least that in common.
Divorce sucks, being single sucks, having a great love life sucks, when lost. So, there is something extra I am going for this time. This time it is the continual creation of a love partnership as much or more out of the bed as in it. The continual creation and care of that kind and quality of love relationship, while not a new thought for me, is a renewed understanding backed by painful experience of what happens when it is not created continually, cared for, nurtured, protected by both.
To tell you the truth, I look forward to another chance at love. I know I sure could use some TLC and I know how much I need to give it. It will take some time, or like magic, take no time at all, but let’s get at it. Let’s do the meet and greet game and see. Like the lottery, if you don’t play you can’t win.
A love life, any love life is better than no love life. But I am not after just any love life. Not just something to make life seem more worthwhile. What I propose will be a joy to create, something to splurge on, a thing to admire and be admired. It’s nothing new really. It’s been going on since, well forever. It’s just a matter of doing it again and doing it better than before so this creation does stand the test time, this time.
So, if you see me and I look distracted or sad, know it is not just the loss of those four children and three great loves that vex me, but rather how to fall in love again to get over having loved before. I need someone to understand that and be willing as I am, to understand we are not the first love and those other loves never died for us, just got broken. It's not even something to be jealous of, though I am sure I still will be just a little bit even if I don't mention it. I know that we could not have hurt that bad without love that good. I want to fall in love again and I want you to fall inlove with me. I will work to make that happen, let it. You need to work at it too.
IMPORTANT NOTE: If you are on psych meds and/or hand them out don't bother writing me unless you want moral support to get off that harmful stuff.
Other than that, please feel free to read on and contact me.
Anything else I wrote here falls short in terms of importance TO ME except this next sentence, which I took from someone else's profile.
"Will trade kindness, love, respect and loyalty for same."
I just love the power of that much simplicity.
What else is there for me to say of myself that I wish to share here? I am a man, which is to say, a spirit with a body, male, human, on this earth at this time and, as is said, perhaps for just a little while. I have love to share and I would love one honestly passionate like minded woman with the same problem for a mutual, monogamous, long term (this lifetime) solution:)
I like walking, intelligent conversation, joking around, writing, cooking, motorcycling, fixing other people's computer issues, fishing, camping, and long pleasant drives with good company, and my privacy.
I have become a big man for my height. Having let myself go, I am on my way back. Those inches and that weight are going back to normal, so you will just have to take me now or miss out on the new me later:)
Taste in music? I like the best of any type, blues, jazz, classical, tribal, rock, C/W, anything really as long it is on good equipment, or live and not too erratic or the other extreme of same beat ad nauseam
Dancing? Yes I like to dance. It’s been a while but I am good at the good ol two-step (C/W) and a good teacher, so I have been told.
This should not be too complicated. We find things to like in each other, ignore the rest and bring out the best in each other.
That is if we can get past the first test of being able to stand the sight of each other. If we can, we go on to try facing the thought of each other as our lover. We can laugh or faint or cry as the case may be. And if we just can’t stand it, we can try thinking the thought again once we have the lights out and bags over both our heads. If we still can’t stand the thought of it, we can get so drunk we don’t care, can’t see and won’t remember. It’s a joke, I am joking, relax, and take it easy I am not serious, I would remember.
All kidding aside, I would like to get decisions made one way or the other then and there, at our first meeting. We will know at the first one if we want a second. I don’t do serial dating or date multiple partners.
Having a live lover is what having a love life is about and is what makes it possible, yes? And that is what POF is for, yes? By lover I mean lover, not just sex partner. There is a difference worthy of notice. I want you to know that I know and appreciate the difference. I expect you to know and appreciate the deference too.
And though I have been loaded down with much painful loss I still know the life force of both individuals is nurtured (or not) in this thing we call a love life. And so, I am now seeing it is a matter of survival as much as it is a mater of romance that I do get out of the condition of being single and back into a condition of a close loving relationship with a member of the opposite sex again. If you are aware the same applies to you, we can start there with at least that in common.
Divorce sucks, being single sucks, having a great love life sucks, when lost. So, there is something extra I am going for this time. This time it is the continual creation of a love partnership as much or more out of the bed as in it. The continual creation and care of that kind and quality of love relationship, while not a new thought for me, is a renewed understanding backed by painful experience of what happens when it is not created continually, cared for, nurtured, protected by both.
To tell you the truth, I look forward to another chance at love. I know I sure could use some TLC and I know how much I need to give it. It will take some time, or like magic, take no time at all, but let’s get at it. Let’s do the meet and greet game and see. Like the lottery, if you don’t play you can’t win.
A love life, any love life is better than no love life. But I am not after just any love life. Not just something to make life seem more worthwhile. What I propose will be a joy to create, something to splurge on, a thing to admire and be admired. It’s nothing new really. It’s been going on since, well forever. It’s just a matter of doing it again and doing it better than before so this creation does stand the test time, this time.
First Date
If you have read this far and liked it, give me an email and let’s see.
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