I am a non-smoker, non-drinker, non-drug user in search of the same. I am divorced and prefer a single or divorced (not separated) man.
Spirituality, (not to be confused with religion) is my foundation so finding someone like-minded is imperative. I don't feel that it is worth settling for less just to avoid being alone. I have been described as a "watered down Hippie", (without the alcohol, sex, drugs, and rock and roll). I haven't had any issues with alcohol. I chose to avoid it over a decade ago as I don't enjoy it. I have no tattoos or piercings and I dislike motorcycles.
The majority of my "spare time" is spent attending hot yoga and spiritual events (sweat lodges, drumming circles, sound healing, spiritual movies, meditation or discussion groups, reiki circles etc) or raw food events (workshops and potlucks etc).
I enjoy raw foods (fruit, vegetables, nuts, seeds), with occasional cooked vegan (gluten free) meals. It isn't as boring as it sounds. Almost anything can be made in a raw version, including chocolate. I would prefer to meet someone vegetarian, vegan or with the same food preferences.
I am far from perfect and don't expect perfection from anyone but I have to admit that I find literacy, (the ability to spell, use correct punctuation and put coherent sentences together) to be an extremely attractive trait! I feel that the effort that someone puts in their profile is indicative of the effort that they will put into a relationship.
I'm honest, genuine, and sincere, and consider lying, head games, and manipulation pointless. I'm down-to-earth, easy-going, non-judgmental, low-maintenance, and non-materialistic. I prefer a drama free life. I'm a one-man woman and I am very old fashioned where dating is concerned. I prefer courtship to casual dating. I have a great sense of humour and love to laugh and joke around. I treasure the simple things in life, the stuff that money can't buy. I'm interested in a person's inner qualities, not what they do for a living, their possessions, or the numbers in their bank account.
I'm very independent and self-reliant. I am "happily divorced," in parental retirement from active duty and enjoying grand-parenthood. As I have spent over half of my entire life as a parent, I would prefer to meet a man in the same life stage or without children.
I'm looking for someone to grow with and a relationship that brings out the best in both of us by providing mutual support and encouragement. Physical attraction is important, but not as important as the things that you can't see. I really appreciate a spiritually-focused man with a good sense of humor, a positive attitude, similar values, food preferences and some of my interests.
It seems that a lot of the men here have motorcycles, probably enough to warrant a site name change to "Plenty of Motorcycles." It is wonderful that they have found their passion but since it is not a shared interest we are better suited for someone else.
"The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness."~Neale Donald Walsch
"Every relationship you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.”~Deepak Chopra
"Love is a flower, you've got to let it grow"~ John Lennon
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." ~ unknown
I understand and respect everyone's meeting preferences. I hope that you will understand and respect mine as well. I am looking for quality not quantity. I prefer to get to know people online over time prior to meeting. I've met some of my best friends online over the years and have found that this works the best for me. I'm not into serial meetings so if you're looking for "chemistry" or "sparks" at a coffee/drink meeting, I'm not your best choice. In my opinion, "chemistry" or "sparks" are indicators of lust and I am not interested in "lust at first sight." True love isn't something that comes instantly. It builds over time beginning with friendship, trust, and respect.
I've found that coffee/drink meetings often resemble an interview/interrogation. Have you ever witnessed/accidently overheard a coffee meeting/interrogation? I have and I'd prefer not to be on the other end of that situation! I find that an activity takes the pressure off of concentrating on the conversation. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, expensive, or time-consuming. It's a lot easier to get to know someone if you're doing something fun and active. It can be as simple as a walk. If it doesn't go well we can tell each other to take a hike. j/k