I am a non-smoker, non-drinker in search of the same. I am divorced and would prefer to meet a single or divorced (not separated) man.
I don't feel that it is worth settling just to avoid being alone. Spirituality, (not to be confused with religion) is my foundation so finding someone like-minded is imperative. I have been described as a "watered down Hippie", (without the alcohol, sex, drugs, and rock and roll). I haven't had any issues with alcohol. I don't enjoy it so I chose to avoid it over a decade ago. I have no tattoos or piercings. Fun fact, I have never taken a selfie.
The majority of my "spare time" is spent attending hot yoga and spiritual events (sweat lodges, drumming circles, sound healing, meditation or discussion groups, Reiki circles etc) or raw food events (workshops and potlucks etc). I like watching comedies, romantic comedies and documentaries. I generally prefer reading non-fiction but I also love Jane Austen's books and movies. We don't need to have all of the same interests but I feel that it is only fair to mention that I dislike sports, motorcycles and dancing. I am not a big fan of shopping but don't mind a trip to Costco.
I enjoy cooking and baking but I only eat raw vegan meals (uncooked fruit, vegetables, nuts, seeds). It isn't as boring as it sounds. Almost anything can be made in a raw version, including chocolate. I would prefer to another raw vegan or someone who is currently vegan and is open to eating raw vegan meals.
I am far from perfect and don't expect perfection from anyone. I have to admit that I find literacy, (the ability to spell, use correct grammar, punctuation and coherent sentences) to be an extremely attractive trait! It appears to be a lost art. I feel that the effort that someone puts in their profile is indicative of the effort that they will put into a relationship.
I'm honest, genuine, and sincere, and consider lying, manipulation and head games, (other than Lumosity) pointless. I'm down-to-earth, easy-going, non-judgmental, low-maintenance, and non-materialistic. I prefer a drama free life. I'm a one-man woman and I am very old fashioned where dating is concerned. I prefer courtship to casual dating. I have a great sense of humor and love to laugh and joke around. I treasure the simple things in life, the stuff that money can't buy. I'm interested in a person's inner qualities, not what they do for a living, their possessions, or the numbers in their bank account.
I'm very independent and self-reliant. I am "happily divorced," in parental retirement from active duty and enjoying grand-parenthood. As I have spent over half of my entire life as a parent, I would prefer to meet a man in the same life stage or without children.
I'm looking for someone to grow with and a relationship that brings out the best in both of us by providing mutual support and encouragement. Physical attraction is important, but not as important as the things that you can't see. I really appreciate a clean shaven, spiritually-focused man with a good sense of humor, a positive attitude, similar values, food preferences and some of my interests. We don't need to be identical. I believe that it is important to have separate interests, hobbies and passions as well.
If you choose to meet, favorite or message me, then please include a photo as I have for you. I am unable to see who wants to "meet me" so please add me as a favorite or message me if interested. Thanks.
It seems that a lot of the men here have motorcycles, probably enough to warrant a site name change to "Plenty of Motorcycles." It is wonderful that they have found their passion but since it is not a shared interest we are better suited for someone else.
"The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness."~Neale Donald Walsch
"Every relationship you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.”~Deepak Chopra
"Love is a flower, you've got to let it grow"~John Lennon
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." ~unknown
"At your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you still will be worth it to the right person." ~unknown
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I understand and respect everyone's meeting preferences. I hope that you will understand and respect mine as well. I am looking for quality not quantity. I prefer to get to know people online over time prior to meeting. I've met some of my best friends online over the years and have found that this works the best for me. I'm not into serial meetings so if you're looking for "chemistry" or "sparks" at a coffee/drink meeting, I'm not your best choice. In my opinion, "chemistry" or "sparks" are indicators of lust and I have not interest in "lust at first sight." True love isn't something that comes instantly. It builds over time beginning with friendship, trust, and respect. Physical attractions are common, but a mental connection is rare. I am in search of that rare mental connection.
I've found that coffee/drink meetings often resemble an interview/interrogation. Have you ever witnessed/accidently overheard a coffee meeting/interrogation? I have and I'd prefer not to be on the other end of that situation! I find that an activity takes the pressure off of concentrating on the conversation. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, expensive, or time-consuming. It's a lot easier to get to know someone if you're doing something fun and active. It can be as simple as a walk. If it doesn't go well we can tell each other to take a hike. j/k