I have always been bisexual, but for the last 12 years have been monogamous with my partner Scott. He has also been monogamous with me and expected that would always be the case...until about 2 months ago. I know what you're thinking, but he didn't cheat on me, and I didn't cheat on him . Instead, one night he came to me and told me he was developing feelings for someone else. I asked him if he still loved me and he said he did. So, I told him I was cool with sharing if she was, much to his surprise...despite the fact that she was not bisexual and she was not open to my involvement in any way. Long story short, she tried out the relationship for a while, but wasn't emotionally secure enough to cope with a poly relationship, so she ended it and broke his heart violently. Still, we both learned something about ourselves and each other through the experience and our relationship is stronger than ever. He learned that he's polyamourous and that I want him to be happy no matter what, and I learned that despite my past experiences, having a third person join a relationship doesn't need necessarily doom it to fail (it just hurries it towards failure if its already headed that direction). SO NOW WHAT? WE are looking for the other love of our lives. Here's a little about us: I'm pretty easy going and quite creative. I love to talk and have intelligent conversations. I am a decent listener if whoever is talking is interesting. I like lots of different things and I'm always up to try something new. Scott is a manly man with a seriously soft side. He is an outside-of-the-box thinker who can fix nearly anything. He has a multitude of talents, ranging from telling jokes to discussing string theory. He is generous to a fault and the best person I know. We are both artists, but do various other jobs to pay the bills. As for what we are looking for...This could take a while...though I can't speak for Scott, I usually like people that are creative in some form, be it art, music, etc. and someone who I can inspire creatively and who can do likewise for me. A good sense of humor is a big plus, as are empathy and self-confidence....I would insist that HONESTY is the most important trait a person can possess, at least within a romantic relationship and that someone should also be able to accept other's honesty. Also, ideally, that someone should be someone who is passionate...passionate about ANYTHING really...because passion in life is an absolute MUST.
A solo date with each of us first? If all goes well, next we could all go out for a bite to eat, or we could cook for you...you decide! Anything where we can chat and get to know each other is good.