"We are all a little weird, and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." — Robert Fulghum
Welcome to my profile. Snuggle in comfortably and I'll introduce myself.
I really dig both the technical and the creative. I have a particular love for photography, as it's a nice combination of the two. I don't have children, and while I really like them, I have no plans to raise any. Unfortunately that includes someone else's, even though I think single moms rawk. I'm happy being the nutty uncle. Kids that are out of the house aren't an issue, though.
I'm not at all religious, unless you count the Church of the Subgenius. Praise Bob! I'm a fan of cognitive dissonance as both a learning tool and entertainment.
"I'm a people worshiper. I think people should worship people, I really do. ... Seemed like every time I found myself in a bind, nothing mystic came to help me, some man or some woman stepped up there..." — Lord Richard Buckley
Several people have been surprised to find that I don't consider myself a spiritual person. I do think there are many things about the universe we live in that we don't understand yet, but I take a very practical approach to them. That doesn't mean I don't feel a sense of wonder from something as simple as watching the muscles and tendons of a hand at work or listening to a bird sing. It's just that I don't do what I do because I'm following precepts or dogma, but simply because it is what I do.
Politically, I believe in personal freedom, but that government and industry needs oversight. If a company has a single owner with a vision, it has a chance of keeping to some kind of moral compass. Once it succumbs to groupthink, profit for the shareholders becomes the bottom line. Letting companies regulate themselves leads to things like monopolies and price fixing, not to mention non-market issues like child labor and Minamata Bay. As far as government is concerned, we've had plenty of examples of power abuse just here in the USA that I don't need to get into, but at least we get to vote. I think both communism and the free market are nice on paper, but the plan doesn't survive the encounter with real people. I believe a balance is needed, with fine-tuning as we go along.
"-ism's, in my opinion, are not good. A person should not believe in an -ism; he should believe in himself." — Ferris Bueller
On a personal level, I tend to hold very liberal views, but don't necessarily utilize them in my lifestyle. I think drugs should be legalized (though regulated), but don't do any recreational ones myself. I think same-sex marriage should be legally recognized, but I'm het. I haven't experimented with much "kink", but I think that what happens in the bedroom between two consenting adults is no one else's business. I think that it's absolutely crazy that sex toys only recently became legal in Texas. (Alabama and Mississippi are still in the dark ages). I understand polyamory and think it can work (with work), but I'm very monogamous. I'm not a porn fiend, but I think the human body, in its many shapes and forms, is a beautiful thing and deserves to be enjoyed.
What I’m doing with my life:
So... I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis a little over ten years ago. To say it's had an impact on my life is putting it mildly, but it hasn't consumed me. I've had to make quite a few changes and spent a long time struggling with it, trying to keep things the same, but I'm a different person now, both mentally and physically. I can still get around on my feet, sometimes using a cane and not for long distances (I would make a lousy jogging partner). I have a portable electric chair for extended outings.
I've also had to shift my thinking from the technical and analytical side of things towards the more intuitive and artistic. I've always had an interest in both, but much of my day to day processing used to involve "crunching the data". Right now I'm exploring my new options as far as hobbies and interest go. Despite starting the day feeling like I've already run a marathon while simultaneously cramming for the bar exam, I manage to keep in decent shape and eat healthy. I was training in Tai Chi Chuan and cane defense for a while, which I plan to go back to. A medication and diet change has led me to feeling better as time goes on, rather than the other way around.
I'm always looking for new things that interest me. I dabble in auto-mechanics and writing, and I've enjoyed photography for a number of years, especially candid portraits. I get a joy from capturing the image of a child engaged a moment in their own little world. (My first solo show was entitled, "Little Worlds".) It brings me back to the time of secret hideaways, magic, and make-believe. A child's world seems so much smaller than an adult's, but richer with potential. Perhaps it is human nature that as our world expands, we tend to lock down what we believe "is" and "isn't".
I’m really good at:
Photography, computers, auto mechanics, zero-G parkour, using my hands, witty comebacks (if given ample time), inappropriate Photoshop mashups (I had 15 seconds of 'Net fame with my Hello Kitty AK-47), wombat wrangling (not really), and taking things apart that probably shouldn't be (and usually getting them back together). I seem to get decent responses from my writing. I overuse parentheticals.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
My humor is a mix of brainy, pervy, and sometimes just plain odd.
I became vegetarian 25+ years ago, and while it would be nice to to share that lifestyle, it isn't a requirement. I don't preach or protest. I'm currently vegan and avoid processed foods, like flour and sugar, which has helped a great deal with reducing my stiffness and aches.
Ernie Cline's "Nerd Porn Auteur" goes a long way towards explaining my taste in women, though you could easily replace intellectual endeavors with artistic ones, etc.
"In my kind of porno movies, the girls wouldn't even have to get naked. They'd just take the guys down to the rec room and beat them repeatedly at chess." — Ernie Cline
I consider my brain and my hands to be my main sexual instruments. Don't get me wrong, I like using my... something else, but there's so much more to sex than just having that be the main focus. I like to make it a whole body experience for both of us.
I'm finding myself more and more interested in epistemology and ontology as time goes on. What do we know? How do we know it? How do we know we know it, and where the heck did my keys go?
I'm not an exhibitionist, but don't usually hold back in conversation. If I'm comfortable with someone, I'm willing to talk about anything, even if we've just met.
I seem to be involved in two searches: friends, and a partner.
At 43, looking for the perfect match seems a bit... limiting. I would absolutely love to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, but I'm also looking for people to spend some time with, to get to know, who I can share a bit of my life with and who are willing to share who they are with me. If something more develops, all the better.
I've found my life enriched by the people I've known. Some have been in my life for only days, some I've known only online, and others have become friends who I've known for decades, but they all have touched me in some way. I like to think that I've had an impact on others. I'd like to get to know you, too.
I've found that I don't really have a "type" that I look for. Sure, there are qualities that attract me, like intelligence, creativity, quirkiness, etc., but I could equally see myself with a techie geek-grrl, a flamboyant painter, or a tree-hugging hippie (or whatever other label a person might want to use), all of whom encompass these traits and are passionate about something in their life. It's not the category that's important to me, but who the person is and the qualities they possess.
Even so, while my friendships are wide and varied, I acknowledge that the convergence of traits and views in who I'm looking for in a mate results in a rather narrow subset, and I'll appeal to an equally limited range in taste.