Take the time to think about your profile. If your profile is short,
sparse, and impersonal it is likely that other members will ignore any
messages that you send them. When members receive messages, they usually check
out the sender’s profile, and if it is satisfactory, they’ll take the sender’s
message seriously otherwise it is deleted without even being read.
- Make sure you include a photo. Profiles that have pictures are viewed ten
times more than profiles that are bare. The more people that see your profile,
the more chances you have of finding your match!
Create a profile description with plenty of information about yourself. The
more you write in your profile, the more other members will be able to
identify with you and will want to contact you! Include information about what
you like, what you dislike, your passions, your fears, your personal beliefs,
and your personality traits. This is your chance to shine and really show
people what type of person you are!
Think up some creative first date ideas. Your first date ideas will reveal
much about your personality – whether you’re sporty, romantic, adventurous,
sensual, easygoing, or sensitive!
If you follow these steps you should have no problem finding dates on this Dating Site!
Help Creating The Right Type of Messages
So it has finally happened!! You have spotted your dream fish! the clouds have parted and the sun is shining down on the most alluring, charming, brilliant profile you have come across in the internet dating sea!
What’s next? Well, you have to put the bait out there of course. Keep in mind, you can’t just throw any old line into the sea and expect a response. To hook a fish you need to dangle, wriggle and reel.
Introducing yourself is the primary purpose of sending a message to a user. You do not want to take away from your personality, interests or your unique charm with senseless distractions. It is likely the user you have taken an interest in has received emails from dozens of other users, so be sure to make your message unique to you!
Below is an example of what NOT to send:
Choosing a Catchy Title: When preparing your message you must always begin with a catchy subject. Try to avoid vague, generic titles. Every user on this site has an inbox full of “Hi’s“. BORING! This is the first impression they will have of you. Make it a good one!
OR FISH SEX! Now that I’ve got your attention: Okay, so that’s definitely not the best email subject but the were trying to get across is that you want to avoid vague generic titles. Every user on this site has an inbox full of “Hi’s”. BORING! This is the first impression they will have of you. Make it a good one!
Introducing Yourself: You have already created a profile. If you were serious about letting other user’s getting to know you then you completed the “About Me” section. Once you have dazzled a user with your charming and witty message they will be enticed to view your details. There’s no need to disclose a series of personal facts in the first message. Your hamsters middle name and the number of freckles on your back are more of a 4th message topic.
If you notice a common interest in your fish’s profile then mention that. Referring to their hobbies, pictures or occupation show that you have put time into reading their profile and taken a genuine interest.
To do this in a way unique to you, think of how your friends see you. If you’re the funny guy, then slip in a tasteful joke. If you’re poetic, artistic, creative let that come across.
Plentyoffish gives you the option of sending a picture with every message. Make sure to send a smile along with your first hello so your new fish can put a face to the name.
Cheesy Terms Of Endearment: Dear Muffin Lover Baby Angel Pie,
A little scary isn’t it? Just like in the real dating world, there are boundaries as to how comfortable you make yourself. Unique compliments are a great way to catch a fish’s attention, but cheesy terms of endearment can be offensive and make you come across as a player.
Drunk and Fishing: Dating can be terrifying, but getting on the computer after a couple of drinks to loosen up is NEVER a good idea. Drnk Messasagess wilil nebver come across as eloquent or intelligent and are just plain disrespectful to the recipient.
NO CAPS: A message in all caps means one of two things:
1) You are too careless to take the caps lock off.
2) YOU’RE SCREAMING!! You would never approach someone in the street yelling “HI! HOW ARE YOU!?” Or maybe you have been and that’s why you’re giving internet dating a try. Well that wont fly here!
Big letters do not make you a big person. They’re sloppy and abrasive.
Controversial Topics: Politics, Religion or Activism may be a huge part of who you are, but don’t let controversial topics manipulate the process of getting to know another user. Sometimes opposites attract. It’s best to get to know your new fish for a while before sending off those interrogating emails.
Careless Mistakes: If you can’t be bothered to spell check your message or give it a quick read over, then you’re letting yourself come across as someone who doesn’t have the time to pay attention to details. Nobody is interested in getting to know a negligent user that isn’t taking the site seriously. Consideration is a huge part of sending a message. If you are not investing any time or effort into creating a thoughtful, articulate message then do not expect a great response.
Awaiting a Reply: Be sure to end off letting the user know you’re excited to hear back from them. Asking questions gives them a jumping off point so try to initiate a fun topic that interests you both.
Meeting new people can bring new opportunities and excitement into your life! Do not hesitate to contact that fish you’ve had your eye on. If you put the time and effort into constructing a extraordinary message just for them, they will undoubtedly appreciate your courage and intrigue. The perfect message may just be the way you reel in your match!